My Story

I made the decision a few years ago that I needed to get the area
of my life ‘handled’ called ‘dealing with women.’ So I made a decision
and a commitment to myself and my best friend that I would do
whatever it took to learn and ‘figure this out.’ (Read Think and Grow
Rich by Napoleon Hill Chapter #1 for more on this mindset).
Background: The girlfriends that I had in the past were mostly
from luck, now that I reflect on it. They were there, and I felt lucky to
have the opportunity to get them to be my girlfriend.
But I never knew how to approach women that I didn’t know, and I
could sit in a bar for three hours making eye contact with a woman,
and never have the nerve to go talk to her. Right now I’m just turning
30, I’m about 5’10 160 pounds. I think I’m reasonably good looking,
but I’ve never been the kind of guy that women just walk up and
approach. (I say this to give you frame of reference in relationship to
the comments in this newsletter relating to looks, etc.) I’ve made
myself more attractive by paying attention, learning, and using what
works.
When I made the decision to get this part of my life handled, I
decided that instead of trying to start with an angle (working at a strip
club, becoming famous for something, etc.) that I would like to learn
in a way that gave me power to act on just my personality and
presentation - to make this part of who I was rather than a 'trick.'
I have a rule of thumb in life that I use… it takes about 2-4 years
just to get 'good' at something. And I mean JUST TO GET GOOD. Think
martial arts, playing an instrument… anything. (Read the first chapter
of "Mastery" by Leonard for more wisdom on this topic)
Sure, you can have some success and fun while learning, but
experience has shown me that to really 'get' something, and to be able
to use it in many contexts successfully, you need to apply yourself for
2-4 years.
THEN, I think it takes another 2-4 years to become a 'master' of
whatever you're doing.
At the 10+ year level is usually where the Genius level really kicks
in…
My point here is to say that I've been applying myself for a few
years now, and I am now to the point where I feel confident and in
control around women. I encourage you to make this a long term
commitment rather than just trying to get an instant cure. It will be
worth it in the long run.
If you're just plain lazy and want a shortcut, go ahead and try all of
them. But you'll most likely find, like most others do, that massive
success with this material takes practice, effort, and a commitment.

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