First of all, realize that there’s nothing wrong with having to learn tactics to meet and seduce women. Most men are absolutely CLUELESS in this area, and it's not entirely their fault. A lot of this has to do with being raised by our mothers, as well as the tendency of men not to seek out help or advice. Women, on the other hand, grow up reading Seventeen magazine and YM, watching soaps, and focusing more on interpersonal relationships than men. By the time they’re adults they have a whole array of techniques and strategies to tease, hook, and trap a man. They become MASTERS (mistresses?) of manipulation of the opposite sex. Until the Internet resources we enjoy became available and known, men didn’t have anything like Cosmo or Sex In The City to teach them the finer points of meeting and choosing a mate. So the fact that you’re learning techniques to be able to deal with their expertise on their level doesn’t make you less of a man; it just means that you’re catching up to their extensive experience, and leveling the playing field.

Another important step is to remove from your mind any negative connotations with the idea of manipulation. (Credit to Ross Jeffries for getting me thinking about this issue). I believe that all human beings require SOME level of manipulation! Advertising tries to manipulate us to buy soft drinks and the latest clothes. You try to manipulate your friends to go see the movie that YOU want to see. The act of manipulation (and the technology/techniques we use in our case to do it) is morally NEUTRAL; it’s just the context under which it’s done which makes it good or bad. For example, a salesman manipulates you into buying a product, which is his job. You’re happy with the product you bought, and he’s happy with the commission he made. Where’s the harm?

You may also have a problem assuming the techniques and the seduction mindset into your personality, thinking that the methods just aren’t YOU and that it presents a "fake" you. Consider this: Let’s say you’re an engineer. Were you an engineer from birth? Of course not. You had to study math and the sciences in high school, and then pursue higher education to get an engineering degree. It took years but now, YOU are an engineer! And so it is with seduction. If you continue learning new material and field-testing it, eventually it’ll become YOU. Realize also that a woman out on the town in flashy, skin-tight clothes and painstakingly-applied makeup is NOT "her". "Her" is the girl who 5 hours earlier was standing in front of her mirror miserable and panicking because she was having a bad hair day. The heels, the make-up, the confident air, ALL of these are tools to make herself appear more attractive to the opposite sex. So don’t feel guilty or awkward when using "personality tools" of your own to achieve the same result.

Most importantly, if you value yourself and your life as being important in the grand scheme of things (and you SHOULD, since it’s YOUR life), then you should also believe that you deserve the very best that life has to offer. This includes finding the very best MATE that you can find. If learning seduction techniques and applying them can improve your chances of meeting the best woman for you out there, then mastering them is one of the noblest undertakings of your life. 

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