1. Body language for attraction

2. Being a challenge

3. Engaging the competitive instinct

4. Being unpredictable and spontaneous

5. Being mysterious

6. Using Takeaways and Open Loops

7. Using Push/Pull

8. Using Role-Playing

9. Demonstrating higher social value

10. Showing indifference to her

11. Taking the lead

12. Using Cocky & Funny comments and themes

13. Using fluff talk to bridge between attraction points

14. Storytelling

15. Directing the conversation to sexual themes

16. Projecting Sexual State

17. Establishing dominance and dealing with tests

18. Dealing with poor behavior

19. Disarming obstacles

20. Dealing with "Let’s Just Be Friends"

21. Advancing to Qualifying Her

The Attract phase is the MEAT of your interaction. It’s fine to open a woman, it’s fine to qualify her, it’s find to develop rapport, but if you don’t stir that emotion of ATTRACTION in her, all you’re doing is making a new friend.

As David DeAngelo is quick to point out, ATTRACTION ISN'T A CHOICE. It's an unconscious response to certain personality characteristics and behavioral cues. If you simply hope that a woman will give you what you want by virtue of being around her, you’d better hope again. You have to do things to TRIGGER attraction. You have to demonstrate those behavioral cues.

Note that this section is a "how-to" guide for attraction. It tells you what to SAY and DO to demonstrate that you have attractive qualities. What’s most important though is not what you say or do, but your ATTITUDE and the way you come across as you say or do it. Get your attitude/inner game spot-on, and it won’t matter much WHAT you say or do.

Be the ALPHA male! In the animal kingdom, the Alpha male is the boss of the pack. He mates with most of the females in the pack, while the Beta males have a lower status and mate with few females, if any. Alpha indicates HIGH STATUS. You don’t have to be a rich CEO or a rock star to have the MINDSET of the alpha male. Since you live in your own reality, realize you’re the KING of YOUR reality! Hold the belief that you have extremely high social value and that you’re the boss in your reality, and it’ll come across in your interactions with women.

During the attract phase, try whenever possible to ISOLATE the target. If you’re in a high-distraction area, invite her to go somewhere else where there are less distractions. If you’ve just met her on a busy sidewalk, invite her to a nearby coffee shop where people won’t bump into her and break her attracted state. If you meet her at a noisy club, invite her somewhere else (terrace or quieter corner), and get her away from her friends. If you met her on a dance floor, move her up against the wall and away from the crowds.

Here’s a playful intro for an isolation attempt: "Hey, come with me." (What? Where??) "I'm going to kidnap you to make your friends feel bad. No one will suspect it was me! Come on"

DON’T overdo any of the following techniques. There are so many guys who try to use humor and fun in an "exchange" frame with women—just like the guys who try to impress women with money. A few too many jokes and quips could be interpreted as an exchange frame gesture, like buying her drinks. You’re trying to give value to her by being entertaining, and this can oversell the prospect (you). Tone it down and convey that it is YOU, a part of you, and not some kind of show. Be strong, never be submissive, don't become a song and dance show, be cool and relaxed, and CONSISTENT WITH THESE CHARACTERISTICS. Be playful (especially when you first meet a woman), but tone it down after a few minutes. At that point talk less, but when you do, make it count.

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