1. The purpose of qualifying
2. Implicit Qualifying
3. Indirect Qualifying
4. Cocky & Funny Qualifying
5. Direct Qualifying
6. Phase-shifting to RAPPORT

The process of QUALIFYING conveys that you're the selector without saying it outright. It basically shows that you hold standards and expectations of women you get involved with, and sows seeds of doubt in her mind about whether she "qualifies" to be with you. This is beneficial because it sets up that you’re a challenge, and that SHE has to prove herself to YOU.

Most men follow the opposite strategy, and try as hard as they can to prove themselves to the woman. They brag about their accomplishments, their educations, or their jobs, they ask what she likes in a guy and then say "Oh, I’m like that" and give examples, etc. They look for her approval in their statements, like when saying something and following it up with "right?" or "Don’t you agree?" They say things like "Give me a chance, you won’t regret it" or "What have you got to lose by going out with me?" They compare themselves to her other options, saying crap like "Oh I’ll treat you better than those other guys". They do everything possible to show that they’re "good enough" for her.

When a man does these things for a woman, what does all that communicate? It communicates that SHE is the prize, the one with higher social value, and that he’s trying to prove his social value to HER. Social-proofing yourself (bragging or trying to prove your worth) is ALWAYS a bad move for this reason. Remember, the key to pick-up is to prove that you are cooler than the girl. If you’re the one trying to prove your social worth to her it sets her up as being cooler than you, and you fail.

Qualifying is extremely powerful because it implicitly puts YOU in the frame of the selector, and her in the frame of the selectee. Most beautiful women will have never seen this in their entire lives, so when a man comes along and steals her selector frame she’s totally unprepared for it. If you assert the frame powerfully she won’t have any choice but to be drawn into it by default, and she’ll find herself trying to qualify herself to you.

Another benefit is that by getting her to worry if she’s good enough for YOU, she won’t have time to worry about whether you’re good enough for HER.

The first step in being good at qualifying women is to have STANDARDS (this is covered in the first phase, ATTITUDE). KNOW what you want in a woman’s appearance and personality, and make it clear to yourself. Then when you meet a woman you’ll be in a much better position to qualify her to see if she meets your standards. The trouble with most men is that the only clear standard they hold is that they want a beautiful woman. When they can see right away that a woman’s beautiful, they’re SOLD, and they have nothing else to qualify her against. SHE then becomes the selector because they’ve already been sold on the goods. The truth is that out of every 10 women attractive enough to catch your eye, only 1 or 2 will actually be good matches for you sexually, in a relationship, or as friends. So learn to look at beauty as only one standard out of many.

There are three important rules to qualifying:

1. 1. The most important thing about qualifying is that you do it only AFTER you've attracted her. If she's not that interested in you and you say something like "I prefer ADVENTUROUS women. Are you adventurous?" she might be a shy girl and think "Ok, I'm not what he's looking for", and she'll lose interest and slot you in the friends category in her head. But if you've already got her hella interested in you and attracted, THEN you say something like that, she'll try to prove herself to you by talking about the time she went parasailing on vacation, or that time she got up in front of everybody and danced on the speaker, etc.
2. 2. Unless you’ve already completely ruled out the woman as a potential (like she’s fat but you only date skinny women), the best qualifying statements ALWAYS leave the woman a way to qualify herself. If she’s a blonde, don’t say something like "I don’t like blondes", because she can’t do much about that. But if you say "I like women who are fun to be around and joke a lot", she can start telling jokes and being more animated to win your approval. As much as possible, keep your qualifying statements a little ambiguous. Saying "I prefer women with IQs over 140" will automatically shoot her down if she tested at 128. But saying "I prefer smart women who can hold an intellectual conversation" gives her a way to start bringing up deeper conversation topics that show her intellect.

Once you have your standards nailed down, you’ve got the green light to begin qualifying women. There are several ways to do this.

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