Implicit qualifying involves showing approval after the fact (after she says or does something). It implies that you’re evaluating her. It usually comes as a surprise to a woman, because she probably had no idea you were even sizing her up until you said it; she probably thought in her mind that it was HER doing the qualifying.

• "You seem cool. I think we may end up really liking each other." "SEEM", "MAY". Talking like this subcommunicates that you're evaluating her according to your standards, and you haven't decided yet. She still has to prove herself to you.

• START TO USE THE "POINTS" SYSTEM AS SOON AS POSSIBLE! Steal the frame by saying, every time she demonstrates behavior or says something you approve of, "Wow, you’re scoring points with me" or "100 points for that one". How many times have you heard this statement from a woman? This turns the game around on the woman and signals that YOU are the qualifier.

• "So many people are so judgmental about things. You seem really open and fun".

• (Says something stupid) Reply C&F: "How can you say that? I was just starting to like you."

• "You know, maybe I was wrong about you. At first I thought you were _______, but now I see that you’re actually ________. That’s cool."

Another form of implicit qualifying is through body language. For example, you could fold your arms and then ask an innocent question in a slightly suspicious tone, while maintaining powerful eye contact. Even though the question you asked may be innocuous, the manner in which you asked it will get her thinking that you’re carefully evaluating/qualifying her answer.

Indirect qualifying involves talking about women in general terms, and not directing the qualifying process directly at her. You're stating your standards matter-of-factly and not targeting HER specifically, but in her head she's wondering if SHE measures up to them. Here are some examples:

• You get on the subject of dating, and you say "You know, I find it funny when women think all they need to impress me is LOOKS. Just once I'd like to meet a pretty girl with a friendly, cool personality too."

• "I'm just sick of it you know, girls have NOTHING to say. They think that just because they look good that's enough… But it's NOT! You know, beauty is common in this city, but what's rare is a great personality. A great personality can really make dealing with someone more interesting."

• "I want a woman who really EXCITES ME. I don't want to get involved with someone unless they really blow me away. Before I give my time and energy to anyone they've got to PROVE TO ME that they have some great qualities. And, if someone can do that I’ll give it back to them in spades. I'll give them experiences that most women only get to fantasize about because I can appreciate a good thing when I see it."

• If you’ve talked about the topic of sex, here’s an indirect sexual qualifying statement: "A lot of women out there LOOK good, but the sad fact is they’re LOUSY in bed. They never had a reason to be good in bed, because guys will still want to sleep with them based on their looks. A woman who not only LOOKS good, but can make my toes curl in bed, is the kind of woman I’m looking for."

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