C&F is great for qualifying, because a woman might not know if you’re joking or not.

• Lean back and look at her analytically, without saying anything. When she says "What?? What is it?", pause a second then say "I'm still trying to figure out if I really like you or not." Then smile like a sly devil.

• "I can tell you’re a woman with great taste." (How do you know?) "Because you laugh at my jokes!" (laughs) "See? Just like that!"

• "Are you rich? I need a rich woman to support me. No? Okay do you have cable? Great! So I can watch afternoon soaps."

• "Are you a BAD girl?? Yeah right, whatever…You're like "PG13" bad…You can't hang with me unless you're FOR REAL…Are you adventurous?" (yes) "Are you spontaneous?" (yes) "Good, because I can’t hang out with someone who isn’t spontaneous. What’s the most adventurous thing you’ve ever done? Really, you did X-ACTIVITY?? hmm…OK MAYBE you’re cool…"

• "We could never be together, because I wouldn’t take your shit, and you wouldn’t take MY shit. We'd fight all the time... and I'D WIN".

• "How old are you?" (tells age) "(repeat age)??? I thought you were at least (add 5 years to number she gave). That's okay though, I can handle older women!"

• (when she does something you dont like) "Well, its just not working out between us. No more sex for you, no more kisses, no more cuddling, until you’re a good girl!"

• "To me, a girl has to be honest. She has to be smart and flirty and playful and fun. She has to have good friends and family that she loves so she's not needy. And she has to be able to fix cars and pay my bills. Can you fix cars?" (No) "Well, you have the cutest little (accent/voice/sense of style) so I’ll keep talking to you anyway."

• "You know, you’re pretty cool. I could actually get to like you. But don’t get any ideas, cause I’m not that easy."

Direct qualifying makes it clear to the woman: You’re seeing if she’s good enough to be with you. Direct qualifying is often heavily shit-tested. If you find yourself being shit-tested on it, ignore the shit-test and just repeat the initial qualifying statement, to show that you mean business.

• "Are you in any kind of therapy? I don't like dating women with too many emotional problems." This approach to qualifying is a little strong, and it’s akin to a woman asking a man straight out "How much money is in your bank account??" But it's direct and to the point, and weeds out problem women fast. If you’re going to use it, smile as you say it and ask it in a matter-of-fact way.

• "Quick...Name 3 things about yourself that you think are attractive that have NOTHING to do with your physical appearance."

• "Yeah you're hot, but one thing I’ve learned from living in Montreal...is that beauty is common...but people with a great energy...and a great attitude...and a great outlook on life are rare...and they’re worth working to get to know better... What's YOUR outlook on life?"

• "I’m not sure if you could handle me…Most women can’t handle me. They fall in love and then turn needy. And I can’t stand women who’re needy."

• If a woman constantly shit-tests you: "One thing I don’t tolerate is drama…You seem like you might be drama, so I’m not sure you’re gonna make the cut". If she shit-tests you on that, come back with "See? More drama. You just can’t be laid back and take things easy."

• "You could never be my girlfriend. I think you’re just too sweet for me. Then again, the sweet ones are the keepers."

• Complains that she can’t find a man: "What’s wrong with you, that nobody’s asking you out?"

• "You know what? I have to ask you, were you ever a fat girl in high school? Because fat girls develop the best personality. You have a fat girl personality."

One great thing about qualifying a woman is that once you qualify her and she meets the standards, she then has to be CONGRUENT to those standards. If you ask her "Are you spontaneous and adventurous?" and she answers yes, then when you move in to kiss her she gets all shy and pulls away, you can point out the inconsistencies in her behavior. "I thought you were spontaneous and adventurous!" She has no choice but to admit she was bullshitting (and fail to qualify), or to follow through.

Keep in mind that the qualifying statements above are just examples. Once you’ve decided on your standards and what you want in a woman, come up with your own implicit, indirect, C&F, and direct qualifying statements for each quality.

It’s important not to overdo the qualifying phase. Sometimes just a simple phrase like "You SEEM cool" will be enough to get the message across that you’re the one doing the choosing. Especially in a street pickup situation where you don’t have much time, you don’t want to waste too much time on qualifying when you’re better off building attraction and rapport as much as you can. As soon as you’ve issued a qualifying statement (perhaps two for stuck-up women), watch for rapport-seeking cues from the woman, then move on to the Rapport phase.

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