The idea of using neuro-linguistic programming (NLP) patterns for seduction comes from a method known as Speed Seduction. SS was pioneered by Ross Jeffries, and is probably the most well-known method in the seduction community. Using vivid, descriptive language, voice tonality, and subtle movements to capture and lead a woman's imagination is what it's all about. It's essentially low-level hypnosis, with suggestive "imbedded commands" scattered throughout the patterns.

The effectiveness of SS is hotly debated in the seduction community today, and even Ross Jeffries is gradually moving away from patterning to a more holistic approach to seduction, focusing on mastering control of your own state. Nevertheless, NLP patterns have been effective for many people over the years, so I’ve included a few here.

NLP patterns really heavily on tonality and languaging, so in most cases they’re a poor choice of tool to use in bars, clubs, and other crowded and loud venues. However, over a cup of coffee, or in any quiet environment really, they can be pretty useful. Pick 2 patterns that you like best from each category below, memorize them, and practice them in the shower and while shaving over the next couple weeks. Then field-test them, and if you find they work for you, learn some more.

• Speak slowly and clearly
• Lower your voice tonality (speak from your chest)
• Look her in the eyes while saying them (SOFT stare)
• Give a SLIGHT emphasis to the words in capitals. These are the "imbedded commands"
• Don't become attached to the pattern. Be prepared to drop it if the conversation shifts. Stick to short patterns when possible (especially with younger women from the MTV generation).
• Save patterns for isolation, when the woman is alone with you. On a busy street or with her friends is not a good idea since there are too many distractions.
• Work the pattern into the conversational framework so it has some relevance to what you're talking about. Don't just start reciting it out of the blue. Learn to steer conversations towards patterning.
• SP is an abbreviation for Self-Point. A self-point is a visual anchor made by making a subtle gesture towards yourself, so slight that only the woman’s subconscious will pick up on it. Practice self-pointing in conversation so that it truly becomes natural and subtle.

A couple of the patterns below were authored by me. However, most of them I’ve adapted from the original SS materials, and shortened considerably. If you’d like to learn the original patterns, or learn how to make your own, consult the various Speed Seduction materials available on the market.

INCREDIBLE CONNECTIONS pattern, short version: "You know how you can just talk to someone [self-point] and no matter how long it's been you JUST FEEL THIS great connection with them..." (That's cool, I have a friend like that) "Someone you can really trust, who always makes you feel good to talk to? [self-point]" (Yeah, I've known her forever blah blah)

INCREDIBLE CONNECTIONS pattern: "You know what I find is so interesting, is how with some people you just don't connect at all [point away from yourself], and with other people you just FEEL AN INCREDIBLE CONNECTION [self-point]. Like when you start to LISTEN CAREFULLY and REALLY LOOK AND HANG ON EVERY WORD, it's like the rest of the things around you just start to disappear, and the entire world becomes THIS FACE YOU'RE LOOKING AT [point at your face!], THIS VOICE YOU'RE HEARING…that's when YOU START TO FEEL THIS INTENSE CONNECTION."

PEAK EXPERIENCES pattern: "Do you remember the last time you had a peak experience? Like climbing a mountain, skydiving, FALLING IN LOVE? WITH ME, [self-point] I find that they make life worthwhile. It's those times where something gives you that RUSH [self-point], and your heart beats faster, and you FEEL AMAZING."

WAIT FOR DATE PATTERN: "Have you ever been waiting for someone [self-point] to pick you up for an evening, and all of a sudden you hear that knock on the door, and your heart leaps...You FEEL the adrenaline rushing through your body, and the closer you get to that door, the more you feel the butterflies...and then when you open the door it's like WHAT YOU WANT THE MOST IS RIGHT HERE [self-point], RIGHT NOW, RIGHT IN FRONT OF YOU."

FASCINATION PATTERN: "I haven't had that Butterflies feeling in a while. I mean the feeling where I get out of bed and the first thing I want to do is call her…I don’t mean sexually, I just walk into a club and I’m thinking "Ok, her, her, her [point at her], her, and her"…I get butterflies in my LOINS a lot, but not in my stomach in that puppy love way…When was the last time you were just, FASCINATED with a guy? (sp) I mean just totally taken? When he was stuck in YOU’RE MINE, and the more you try not to think about this guy the more you actually DO think of him? (sp)

LOVE AT FIRST SIGHT PATTERN: "You ever wonder why you just FALL IN LOVE AT FIRST SIGHT? What's it like when you JUST DO THAT? NOW, WITH ME [self-point], I think what happens is that a lot of things go on deep inside you and you're not even aware that YOU CAN'T HELP YOURSELF. NOW, it's kind of like a switch [make clicking noise and flick her ear up] goes on in your head and IT JUST HAPPENS...WITH ME [self-point], I think that's just how IT HAPPENS. Kind of like a light turns on in your body and just glows, you know?" Best used when she complains about how she can't find a good man. Tell her "You'll find one, he may show up any minute now!", then talk about love at first sight and segue into this pattern.

FALLING IN LOVE pattern. "Do you remember the last time you fell madly in love? I bet I can tell you how that happened!" (her: blah blah) "You spent time with that person [self-point] and then you went home, and you PICTURE THAT PERSON'S FACE IN YOUR MINE! [as you do this, draw a frame around your own face] Right?" (her: blah blah) "And then, maybe you IMAGINE YOURSELF in all sorts of situations with this person [self-point again] having lots of fun?" (her: blah blah) "And then maybe you start to list all the qualities about him you really like: He's so smart, he's so funny, he's so fun to be with?" [self-point] (her: blah blah) "And then, here's the worst part...You start saying his name out loud, you start bringing it up in conversation with your friends, and maybe you even dance around the house, singing it like a goof? That's when you know YOU'RE ABSOLUTELY HOOKED on someone [point to her solar plexus]. You know what I mean?"

ROMANCE NOVEL PATTERN: "My friend was saying that for her, it's almost like she has these categories of men...and it's kinda funny how in some ways, it's almost like different types of BOOKS. Some men are like encyclopedias. They are always there...always where you can see them or know where they are... They are the standard way of looking up information. You know they will never probably be off the shelf for long. No one really ever borrows them, they are just there, and you'll BE SECURE in the fact that it's up there for you when you need it [motion away from you while explaining this category]. Then OTHER men are like magazines. Fun, fluff, they're like buddies. No real content. They're always around, show up regularly, you check them out when you want a distraction from the everyday world. [motion away from you while describing this category]. And then, there are other men...and THIS type of man [self-point] is more like a Romance Novel. You know, those books where on some level, you enjoy this, you really like to allow yourself to enter this fantasy...to have this experience [self-point]. And the thing with a romance novel is, it's an ESCAPE. It's something where you know that this will only be around for a while, and that's ok [self-point]. You know that there will be a time for you to really get into this...and really let this get into you...and then you'll let it go...and enjoy this even more [self-point]...I think the complete woman is one that embraces all of these "books". And knows what to expect from each." Long, but if you can get through this one and paint yourself as "the romance novel", it could be useful.

CELEBRITY REDIRECT PATTERN: "What singer or actor do you find really sexy, WHO REALLY ATTRACTS YOU?" [self-point] (Her answer) "(repeat name)? And what is it about THIS GUY [self-point] that really turns you on?" [self-point again] (Her answer) "What would you do if he were here, right where I am right now?" [self-point] "Would you JUMP HIM?" Get her all hot and bothered, and with the subtle self-points you direct those feelings towards YOU.

THE LARONDE PATTERN: "I was watching the Learning Channel last week. They were talking to people who design rides and attractions for amusement parks like LaRonde. Wouldn't that be a cool job to have?" (yeah) "Well, they were talking about the things that make up the ideal attraction [self-point]. First, when you EXPERIENCE the ideal attraction, you FEEL A STATE OF HIGH AROUSAL. The ideal attraction makes your heart beat faster, and your breathing gets faster and you just FEEL THAT AMAZING RUSH ALL OVER. And then they said that another part to an ideal attraction is it's fascinating. You just FEEL SO EXHILARATED that you want to TAKE THIS RIDE [self-point] multiple times. As soon as you GET OFF you want to GET BACK ON AGAIN." (continue point) "And the most important thing they said was a sense of overall safety. That even though the attraction might look a little dangerous, YOU'RE CERTAIN YOU'RE SAFE...YOU FEEL SAFE because you realize nothing bad can really happen, so that lets YOU FEEL TOTALLY FREE TO LET GO AND ENJOY IT again and again. Anyway, it was a good show." Best used if she hates her job or is complaining about it. Talk about cool jobs, etc. then mention the people that design amusement park rides.

SURRENDER PATTERN: "Have you ever just sat back and ALLOWED yourself to be seduced? I mean without games, without the chase…Just sitting back with a guy [self-point] and letting go, and giving total control to THIS GUY [self-point]? It’s been said that women are the gatekeepers of sex, they decide who goes in and out, literally…but that can be a heavy responsibility…if you were to JUST LET IT GO and SURRENDER that power, to me [self-point]…in my view…that would be very liberating. Best used when having a conversation about her playing "hard-to-get", or liking to play games, or playing guys in clubs, etc.

REMEMBER SEX PATTERN: "At least you can always relive your past sexual experiences in your head! What’s it like for you when you REMEMBER INCREDIBLE SEX? Do you FIND YOURSELF GETTING HORNY as soon as you FLASH BACK TO IT? Or do you find you need to REPLAY IT IN YOU’RE MINE…and SEE THE SIGHTS…and HEAR THE SOUNDS…as if YOU’RE THERE…WITH ME I find I have to do the replay to really GET DEEP INTO IT. What about you?" Best used when you've already talked about sex a bit, and you're now talking about her lack of it!

SATISFACTION PATTERN: "Women are sexual creatures. They have 3 basic needs: They need to be SEDUCED, they need to be EXCITED, and they need to be SATISFIED. I think SATISFACTION is the most important. A woman will still be happy with a guy who's lousy at the first two, but knows how to satisfy her. It all comes down to satisfaction. What satisfies you, (her name)? A quick lick across the back of your knee, or a long, sensuous lick from your achilles tendon to the back of your neck? Or maybe something a little more animalistic have more of an appeal?" Used to get her hot and bothered if you've got the signal that she's interested.

When should you phase-shift into closing the woman? When you can tell that you have her "amped up" to the point where you have a good chance of success. It’s as simple as that.

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