Be A Special Woman

To my mind, a special woman has that undefinable quality that sets her apart from others. You may think this is purely a matter of genetic inheritance, but that is not so.A woman does not have to be a ravishing beauty to be admired.

In fact, a truly attractive woman has more than just physical appeal. She has that something 'special' that is actually a subtle blend of many attributes... good grooming, good taste, poise, flair, grace, elegance and individuality.In other words, she has a style that is all her own and a way of expressing herself that tells the world that she is indeed a very special person.

Believe me, this is not inherited. It is learnt and cultivated. A sense of accomplishment can also give self-confidence. To be a special person, you have to be "somebody".Today, more and more women are stepping out of their homes to earn a living, make a career and establish their own identity. And, never before have so many opportunities been available to women. Yes, a measure of success in the outside world goes a long way in building a positive self-image. This can come through the profession or vocation, orthrough creative talents. I think every person has a facet, an interest, a talent or ability that can be developed. Even a hobby can be so projected as to add an important dimension to the personality. In fact, it can help to open up a whole new world.

I do lay particular emphasis on individuality. A person must get to know herself first and put herself in a distinct perspective. An honest self-appraisal can help, so that you can learn about your assets and drawbacks and learn to make the most of them. There are innumerable examples of women who actually turned their drawbacks into assets, by projecting an individual quality. In other words, one can make the most of oneself by enhancing personal and physical qualities to project a look that is both attractive and exclusive. Somehow, many of us do not feel comfortable unless we look like everybody else around us. Of course, the pressure to conform exists all the time, through advertisements and magazines. But, following current trends, without imagination and creativity, can make you look like a product from a factory. Some women find it safe to conform.

Of course, a blatant effort at looking different is not the aim. I think you can create your own brand of attractiveness that is subtle and elusive, with a kind of anonymous quality that is difficult to pinpoint. The mark of a woman who is special, is a vitality that comes from sheer good health. The adage, internal health for external beauty is old, but true. With a high level of physical fitness, there are few beauty problems. You will be better equipped to deal with your day to day life. On the other hand, fatigue, listlessness, nagging aches and pains take all the joy out of living and show up on the skin, face and eyes. In order to stay fit, the body needs regular care, by way of a nutritious diet, daily exercise, physical and mental relaxation and adequate sleep. The other qualities that contribute to the external appearance are a flawless skin, lustrous hair and a slim, supple figure. These are the outcome of regular care and using products that are suited to individual needs. We are living at a time when so much information is available on beauty and body care. We can take advantage of advanced techniques in skin and hair care. Today, protective, preventive and corrective cosmetic-care are available.

The special woman is never caught off-guard and is able to cope with each stage of her life and the changes her body goes through. When we talk of regular care, the most common excuse is "lack of time". The woman who looks her best is not one who has time on her hands, but one who has made time for herself. No matter how busy she is, she organises her activities in a manner that allows her enough time for her daily exercises and beauty-care routine. In fact, efficient time-management is the secret behind the appeal of the special woman. The external appearance also includes top to toe grooming, where no details are overlooked. It is the final presentation which counts. So, time-management is of much importance, to make sure that your hair, hands, feet, nails, clothes and accessories are taken care of at all times. The knowledge that you have taken care of the smallest details helps to lend self-confidence. I think good taste is the foundation of grooming. All of us have taste, but it needs to be used and developed.

The woman with greater sensitivity to her surroundings, to colours, forms and lines, is one who learns to exercise good taste. It is possible to increase this sensitivity when your eyes and mind respond to one another, whenever you see colours and fashions around you, or in magazines and books. It is a matter of visually selecting some things and rejecting others. When you choose clothes, make-up and accessories, it is this process which should work. It is also necessary to relate what you see to yourself, to your likes and dislikes, your plus and minus points. Some colours and styles may appeal to you and you should know the reason why. You may find that you are afraid to experiment and keep choosing colours that are 'safe'. For instance, a woman with a quiet, withdrawn personality may find that she chooses colours which are drab and dull, when vibrant colours may actually help to bring her out of her shell. So, get to know yourself and you can be liberated from your own blind spots, fears, fads and prejudices.

Poise is a quality that helps you to feel comfortable in any situation. This again comes from having greater sensitivity to people around you and by being aware of others as individuals. It gives you the knowledge of the right way to act and the right things to say. But, first you must be at ease with yourself. It allows you to be in control. Poise is what gives you the ability to handle any situation with dignity and grace, in a way that makes others also feel comfortable. In fact, it is the way others respond to you that makes you "special". Most of us seem to be trapped by the stresses and strains and even the monotony of everyday life. But, the special woman is much more aware of life and sees the plus points. She has a sense of joy in life and living, because of her positive attitude. Her secret lies in keeping an open mind, so that she keeps learning new things and keeps developing her personality. This helps her to accept change and actually look forward to challenges. There must be challenges in life, for they have arefreshing and renewing effect. They also help us to strive for newer levels...

Yes, everything is within reach for the special woman.