Date: Monday
Hello Sweetie,
Couldn't get on Yahoo this morning :(
I read through (again) some more of your email on your web page and I want to give you some...well, call it "motherly" advice or "suggestions from experience"... or whatever.
I know you have some very kind hearted friends with very good intentions with very big mouths ;) Well intentioned or not. And I know you will come across some things that are painful.
1) Never say any thing bad about Dan to ANYONE no matter what. No matter how angry, hurt etc... if you have, retract it ASAP. What you say WILL get back to him and you WILL regret it.
2) Never tell anything embarrassing or personal about Dan, in your anger, hurt, etc.... It is amazing what comes out of our mouths when we are hurting. It will only make you look bad, not him in the long run and again, he will hear about it and you WILL regret it.
3) Speak only very kindly of Dan. Tell people only the things YOU would like to remember, not what you would like to blank out of your mind. He will hear this and be pleasantly pleased.
4) Don't rehash what has happened with anyone. They have heard it
once (or hopefully not at all) and hearing it again only gives them more to gossip about-- well intentioned or not. That is what writing is for anyway. Rehash it all you want on paper.
5) If you need to talk to someone talk to a mature Christian who does not know him.
6) This may through you into a depression so be aware of the symptoms and get help if needed ASAP.
7) When you come home be ready for questions, condolances (well
intentioned), looks, stares etc... Even around family they occur.
8) Know that everyone has good intentions but not everyone has common sense and well intentioned words may hurt.
9) Know that your parents love you and hurt with you and are not
perfect and may say stupid things as well.
10) Know that God is with you every step of the way. He will "never leave you nor forsake you."
Love you!
Mom
From: Mom
Subject: Hello---
To: Me