The Fruit Bowl
In Galations 5:22,23 we find a listing of the Fruit of the Spirit: Love, Joy, Peace, Patience, Kindness, Goodness, Faithfulness, Gentleness, and Self-Control. We're told in God's Word that people will know us by our fruit. That's how they will be able to tell if we are followers and servants of Christ. The Bible also tells us that God will cut off the branches that don't bear good fruit! Yikes! This fruit thing is pretty important, isn't it?! Well, here we will feature one of these "fruits" in each issue, starting with the first fruit mentioned: Love. Do you think that the "fruit" you bear is good? Do you think that people are able to tell that you are a Christian by the way that you act or respond in different situations? Let's take a look at this issue's featured fruit...Gentleness!
GENTLENESS
When I think about gentleness I always picture a mother carefully rocking her newborn baby while softly and sweetly humming a lullaby. She holds her child close and tenderly kisses its tiny fingers. She doesn’t move abruptly or make a lot of noise. She wants her baby to feel safe and secure within her arms, and she keeps herself sensitive and aware to her child’s needs and feelings. This is gentleness in action, and it comes from pure love and devotion.
God’s gentleness towards us (His children) is much like the kind I described in the example above. Even though we haven’t done anything to deserve such special care or treatment, we are God’s children and He loves us so very much and is completely devoted to us. But this is not necessarily the same type of gentleness that Paul was speaking of when he listed the fruit of the Spirit. We are not going to feel that strong love and devotion towards every one we meet, and yet we are still required to be “gentle” to all. So let’s define gentleness in the general sense and then discuss how we can apply it to our lives.
Webster’s dictionary gives the following definitions to the word gentleness: the quality of being honorable or distinguished…kind, amiable…not harsh, stern or violent…soft and delicate. Webster’s thesaurus says that gentleness is, “being free from all harshness, roughness, or intensity, and having a pleasant easy-going nature.” Here are a few of the synonyms and related words for “gentle” supplied by the same thesaurus: tender, soothing, serene, tranquil, mild, compassionate, kindly, softhearted, and sympathetic. If we are to be gentle, we must handle things with great care and sensitivity towards those involved. We have to think about our words and actions before we speak and act, making sure that they will draw people towards Christ and not push them away.
Proverbs tells us that a gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger. (Proverbs 15:1) It also says that a gentle tongue can break a bone. (Proverbs 25:15) So we see that gentleness truly has a lot of power. It can keep someone from getting angry, and it can break down even the firmest wall between two people or groups of people. 1 Kings 19:12 tells us that a gentle whisper held God’s voice rather than the wind, earthquake, or even fire. Job 29:22 says, “After I had spoken, they spoke no more; my words fell gently on their ears…” It is true; a gentle word spoken or action done can hold more power and strength than the loudness, might, or greatness of any other type of word or action. It can silence people, bring them to tears, make them change their minds about something, and ultimately open the door for communication when it has been blocked by pain, hatred, anger, sorrow, sin, etc. It commands respect but does not come across as pushy or even “preachy”. The potential strength of gentleness is endless and untold.
Gentleness is something that sets us (Christians) apart from the world. Over and over it is included in Paul’s exhortations to different groups of people. Philippians 4:5 says, “Let your gentleness be evident to all. The Lord is near.” Colossians 3:12 tells us to clothe ourselves with gentleness (among other things) because we are God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved. 1 Peter 3:4 says, “Instead, it [your beauty] should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight.” These verses make it clear that gentleness is part of being a true Christian and Godly witness to the world. It is of “great worth in God’s sight” to have a gentle spirit, and that is God’s plan for His chosen people.
So how can we use this gentleness? Does the Bible give any specific examples concerning gentleness for us to follow? It sure does! Have you ever been ridiculed or “made fun of” because of your belief in God? Well, the Bible tells us in 1 Peter 3:15-16 to, “Always be prepared to give an answer to everyone who asks you to give the reason for the hope that you have. But do this with gentleness and respect, keeping a clear conscious, so that those who speak maliciously against your good behavior in Christ may be ashamed of their slander”. Speak with gentleness! When others say mean things about your faith in God, answer back gently instead of stooping down to their level and bad attitude.
Here’s another example for you… Galatians 6:1 “Brothers, if someone is caught in a sin, you who are spiritual should restore him gently…” This is one of those situations that must be handled with a lot of care and, yes, gentleness. You don’t want to condone the sin, but you don’t want to condemn the sinner. I believe that this verse is referring to those who want to be restored. You have to be gentle and extra sensitive in such matters. And you must definitely keep in prayer and follow God’s leading.
In closing, remember that it is of “great wealth in God’s sight” to have a gentle spirit. We don’t have to be devoted to everyone we meet, but if we are devoted to GOD we will be gentle to those He created. So be sensitive and caring, tranquil and softhearted. In these character traits there is much power, for gentleness can turn away anger and open the door for God’s voice…His quiet and gentle whisper…to be heard.
-HK
PREVIOUSLY FEATURED FRUITS
LOVE
JOY
PEACE
PATIENCE
KINDNESS
GOODNESS
FAITHFULNESS
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