Friendly Interference

11/4 When is the right time to get involved in a relationship problem... when you're not one of the people in the relationship? Is there ever a right time? Well, that I guess would be matter of opinion... and here's mine. I suppose I should give some background on why I chose this topic for the month. I have a buddy what I feel as close to as a brother. He has recently changed, and I don't think it's for the better. For a long time, I always thought he had the loyalty to look out for his own. If for some reason any of us were in an altercation where we were outnumbered you could count on him to be right in there with you. But not anymore. He has been hanging around with a group of people that have apparently totally changed his perspective on things. In a hypothetical situation that some friends of mine were discussing, he stated that he would jump in against me and my friends (in favor of his new social circle). Now we've known him and been friends with him for as long as 15 years in some cases. I introduced him to these other people (I had concidered them friends at one time). Where does he get off turning on us like that? Why does he suddenly feel that the honor among friends does not apply to him? Recently he's been neglecting his children (I would almost dare say mistreating them), whispering words of betrayal in my room-mates ear, and for the most part just throwing his life away. He was ready to go back to school and now suddenly he's not going. Out of the blue, his current motercycle is no good for him, now he needs a crotch rocket (like my roomie). He used to understand that his son is just a year old and will get into stuff. Lately he's been over-reacting to such things. As a friend of his, should I speak my mind? Should I let him know that what he's doing is wrong? I believe so, especially concidering that he has tried to use me as an excuse for his behavior. Any thoughts people?

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