From The A.S.F.F. FAQ
1. Questions and answers
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What is a fetish and what is fetishism?
Well, according to Websters Unabridged
Encyclopedic Dictionary, (1989 edition)
the definitions are as follows:
Fet-ish:
1. An object regarded with awe as being the embodiment or
habitation of a potent spirit or ashaving magical
potency.
2. Any object, idea etc., eliciting unquestioning
reverence, respect, or devotion.
3. (Psychology). Any object, part of the body etc., that,
although not of a sexual nature, causes an erotic
response or fixation.
Also spelled 'fetich'.
Fet-ish-ism:
1. Belief in, or use of fetiches.
2. (Psychiatry). The compulsive use of some object or part
of the body as a stimulus in the course of attaining
sexual gratification.
3. Blind devotion.
Also spelled 'fetichism'.
For our use it is clearly the definitions
2 and 3 (for 'fetish')and 2 plus perhaps 3
(for 'fetishism') that is relevant, the
object being some form of clothing, outfit or footwear.
Who are wearing fetish fashion?
All kinds of people! - There's secretaries,
editors, presidents, housewives, students,
workmen, politicians, models and even
unemployed among those known to enjoy
the fashions. Perhaps you're
next?
Is it true that high heels damage the foot?
No, not when we're talking quality footwear
and healthy feet. All footwear may cause
damage to the feet if too small or too badly
designed. High heels are no exception, but
studies even show that it actually may be
healthy (better) to wear heels in the range
2"-3" than to wear flats!
Lani Teshima-Miller
The problem is not with feet--it's with your back and
Why do some women (and men) enjoy (or even prefer)
Ask them! - No, seriously, it may be that they
Do some women really find high heels to be comfortable?
Yes! - Most prefer more ordinary heel heights
Can excessive wearing of high heels in any way be damaging?
Yes, but in no way permanent. Non-stop wear can
It is a die-hard myth that all high heels damage
Is there anything important to know when starting
Lani Teshima-Miller
There is one very important thing to remember about high
How do I get my girlfriend to wear high heels
Ms. Margo writes:
First good thing to try is to ask her, but not when
Other good tricks are to rub the feet with hand lotion
To get her into bed with the shoes on, you might just
Talk to her if she seems uncomfortable about your
And last, but not least, compliment her if she does wear
Why do some women (and men) enjoy (or even prefer)
Ask them! - No, seriously, it may be that they both
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your posture. High heels throw your whole spine out of
whack because of the way it makes you stand--makes it
curve differently. I think it used to lead to sore backs
for me.
to wear high heels?
both find them comfortable and enjoy what they're
doing to the posture. There can be no doubt that
high heels enhance both the legs and the overall
posture and this makes the appearance much more sexy.
And sex is power...
like 3", but some find higher heels even more
preferable, and some even find 5" heels to be
comfortable! Some even wear 6" heels on a regular
basis, although those are more often to be found
in connection with a scene - worn in the bedroom.
Even 7" heels exist, but these are rarely seen.
cause a shortening of the tendons in the back of
the legs, causing pain when wearing heels lower
than usual. Ignoring this pain can damage the tendon
permanently, but the condition can be cured by wearing
slightly lower and lower heels for an extended period.
Some of the people suffering from this problem chose to
handle it by wearing high heels all the time.
the foot. This is not true! - Badly designed (cheap)
heels might cause corns or worse, but well-designed,
well-fitting high heels DOES NOT damage anything when
worn even on a daily basis, as long as the feet gets
to rest at least during the sleep period or similar
(the feet needs shoeless rest). Fanatic 24h wear is
another story...
to wear high heels?
writes:
heels and starting to wear them, is that many people
don't have trained ankles. You have to first learn how
to walk in them, learn how not to wobble (by training
your balance and ankles), and learn how to react when
you happen to bend your ankle. I used to do this A LOT
but never sprained it because I'd worn high heels all
the time. But if your ankle's not used to it, watch out!
(or boots or clogs) more often, particularly
in the bedroom?
you're already in bed. Try some evening after dinner, "I
really think you have beautiful legs and feet. I would
love it if you would wear heels to bed some time." It's
always easier if the other person feels that they are
giving you a gift rather than being pressured into doing
something that might make them uncomfortable. Buy her a
really nice pair of heels. Well made, and unfortunately
expensive, shoes will fit better and be much more
comfortable than the $20 "all man made materials"
throwaways that most shoe stores carry. I have a pair of
extremely expensive thigh-high leather boots that fit
perfectly. I can be on my feet all night, either at home
or out at an event like ManRay, and my feet don't hurt.
Shoe pads are good. The little Dr. Scholls (sp?) pads
for the balls of the feet will make any high heels more
comfortable. More comfortable = worn more often!
and go to bed with cotton socks on. Three nights in a
row of this will make even my 6" heels comfortable for a
full evening. Exercise will help to stretch the tendons
in the ankles and calves. A good one is just to walk on
your toes for a bit each day. Another good one is one
skiers do - put your toes on the edge of a phonebook
with your heels hanging off, raise and lower your heels
stretching gently. If she is walking in high heels on a
pile rug, offer your arm for support. Many women feel
"unstable" in high heels and the extra support is
comforting.
try carrying her to the bed while she is dressed, and
removing everything but the shoes. If all else fails,
you could always go for the bondage shoe straps which
lock the heels on, but I suspect this would freak her
out worse than the shoes.
requests. Find out exactly what makes her feel
uncomfortable and help her with those issues. Many women
have been raised to see this kind of behavior as
"kinky", "sick", or "slutty". Assure her that whatever
makes two people happy is just fine. Assure her that you
hold her in the highest respect and don't question her
virtue. Assure her that you want to be perfectly honest
with her, rather than hiding your desires from her.
heels for you. Best of luck in your quest. A love for
high heels is a wonderful, abet expensive, joy.
to wear high heels?
find them comfortable and enjoy what they're
doing to the posture. There can be no doubt
that high heels enhance both the legs and the
overall posture and this makes the appearance
much more sexy. And sex is power...
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