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1	minute, we’re going to read one item and then recess for
2	the day instead of breaking and coming back for a very
3	short --
4		If we can -- everybody hold together here for a
5	minute, and we’ll be done for the day. You want to make a
6	record on what we’re --
7			MR. CORGAN:	Yes, Your Honor. At this
8	time, we would ask that in regard to State’s Exhibit
9	Number 61, the last two pages of that exhibit being a
10	what’s designated on the index as a letter to Sandra, we’d
11	ask that the bailiff read that or that be published to the
12	jury at this time.
13			THE COURT:	And it’s identified as what?
14			MR. CORGAN:	It’s identified on the index
15	of State’s Exhibit Number 61, at the bottom, it has
16	“letter - Sandra.” And in the Exhibit, it is page 26.
17			THE COURT:	Can we identify further or is
18	it possible to say from who to who?
19			MR. CORGAN:	Well, the context of the
20	letter says that.
21			THE COURT:	Asking the bailiff just to read
22	it to assist us orally to have it presented to you.
23			THE BAILIFF:
24			Sandra, I am really feeling down today and
25			feel like there are some things that I need

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1			to “get off my chest”. This is really hard
2			for me because I love you so much but I
3			feel it is in our own best interest to say.
4			First of all - I love you very much. That
5			is honest and from my heart. I also know
6			that inside you that you love me. I don’t
7			doubt that. However, you said some things
8			this past weekend that really hurt me and
9			continues to bother me. Friday night while
10			I was working so hard to make love to you,
11			you said that I was “over-sexed” and that
12			“I was not compatible.” Whether you
13			intended to or not those words really hit
14			me. That on Friday night plus the two
15			separate pieces of news I received on
16			Saturday and it all adds up to a seemingly
17			overwhelming weekend. I don’t believe that
18			either one of us is “over-sexed.” We have
19			made love only 6-7 times in the first 17
20			weeks of 1990 - that’s not even once every
21			two weeks. If we weren’t “compatible,”
22			don’t you think we would have discovered it
23			during the four years we dated? I think we
24			have gotten into a rut and aren’t looking
25			too hard to get out of it. God intended

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1			for a man and wife to express their love
2			for each other in ways other than words.
3			Verbal expression is something that I have
4			always tried to do and, at times, have
5			missed receiving. But words alone doesn’t
6			cut it. Love is to be expressed to each
7			other. Obviously, sex plays a big part of
8			that but it is not the only thing. A hug
9			as you walk by, a kiss when you are not
10			trying to pull away from me, holding hands
11			or a playful touch, a surprise note or
12			card, or some something that lets the other
13			one know that they have been thought of are
14			all important and expressive of the deep
15			down feelings we have for each other. You
16			don’t know how devastating it is to a man
17			to not be able to please (sexually) his
18			woman and to feel like he has to beg for
19			what should be his to receive. You are my
20			woman. And I haven’t yet been able to
21			truly please you. I don’t know what to do
22			about it. Sex was given to be an avenue of
23			expressing the love between spouses - not
24			just for procreation. No greater
25			responsibility is on the one party over

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1			another to see that that happens. I think
2			the early bad experiences have made you
3			tend to be inhibited and my being
4			understanding of those, experiences had led
5			you to be satisfied with less. I want more
6			for us. We don’t have to be “x-rated
7			stars” to have a fulfilling relationship
8			(I’d never qualify, anyway!!). But we do
9			need to be more active, open-minded and
10			adventuresome and less restricted by some
11			(sic) pre-conceived ideas. It is supposed
12			to be enjoyable and pleasurable and
13			“special.” I would like to see each of us
14			be more responsible for initiating things.
15			To be responsible for seeing that the
16			others needs are met and for being
17			understanding. When you make the comment
18			that I sure am hot or sweaty - its because
19			I’m working to get things to happen. If it
20			was less work for each of us to make things
21			happen, then each of us would probably
22			enjoy it more. I promise I won’t be asking
23			or expecting it three times each week! I
24			don’t feel like our church duties, your
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1			led to this. I have been (sic) feeling
2			like this for some time and little bits and
3			pieces have came out every once in a while.
4			I am not mad or angry Or, anything of the
5			kind and I hope you won’t be angry with me
6			for being honest and open with you. I LOVE
7			YOU and that’s why I’m telling you this.
8			We are young, healthy, have a beautiful
9			family and have so much going for us. I
10			care about you and want us to grow
11			together. As in any relationship that’s
12			worth anything, it would (sic) take work
13			and effort by both of us. We have let some
14			of the romance slip away from our
15			relationship. We need some excitement,
16			something to put the spark back in. I’m
17			willing to try to find that spark. Please,
18			let’s look together. April 30, 1990.
19				THE COURT:	Thank you for waiting then. We
20	will recess till nine o’clock in the morning, nine o’clock
21	in the morning.
22		Again, refrain from any discussions or receiving
23	information about the case. 9:00 a.m. in the morning.
24		(THE PROCEEDINGS WERE ADJOURNED TO THE FOLLOWING
25		DAY, JULY 26, 1991)

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