Sooner or later every student of the craft turns big eyed and red cheeked asking 'that' question. Whispers about covens, sabbath's, and high priest and priestess hint at orgies beyond imagination, so they all want to know: What about sex magick? How many seekers come to the craft thinking they'd get laid every full moon I wouldn't dare say. I wouldn't dare say how often the practice is abused either. As in all things, there will be good and bad people, good and bad intentions. And as always, there is a wrong and a right way. Originally the 'holy union' dates back to the times where the great rite was still performed, when law and order and ruling was tied to the land that supported all life. Part of the coronation was to share a night with the priestess standing in for the Goddess, to symbolize the King’s marriage and dedication to the land. Today ceremony is mostly that, ceremony. Very seldom does it extend into the act of physical intercourse, and if so the priest and priestess are usually lifebonded. Even then it is not a public performance. However, for those of us who equal magick with energy, and energy with the divine (whichever name we chose to call it), we know it is one way to raise that energy very easily, provided you have a partner willing and capable to share him/herself completely without reserves, in perfect love and perfect trust. The term sex magick is misleading, for sex isn't even BEGINNING to describe it! Sex is scratching an itch and could never achieve the rising of such pureness. Making love is much more like it. Each one of us is Goddess, is God, carries the life force and honors it. It doesn’t take an ordained priest/ess to participate in this type of magick. I have said several times (to the general misunderstanding and unbelieving faces of others) that as opposed to sex, when making love WITH a sensitive partner and both are capable of reaching what I call the 'alpha state', part of the experience is leaving your body. Totally becoming one, fusing with the other, not knowing where you end and your partner begins…... it takes a lot of trust and love to allow that to happen, to forget about past hurts and to let all your guards down. But when it does, there is no equal. Don't get me wrong, as often as we would wish it to be this way, it is not easily found. We dream about it, we hear about other's who had the experience, and yet, unless we find the one we are meant to be with, it often does not happen. To throw the line from one soul to another, isn't something you can do at will. It happens when you least expect it, and is what I call life bonding. When it does happen, it scares the daylights out of most people (mostly the male part of the bonded). I can see why being scared would equal running away from it, but as for myself it is the biggest sacrileg of all. And besides, you cannot leave your lifebonded anyway. Not really. You'll just be miserable for the rest of your life. You never forget the one time you felt truly whole......... There is no room for thought. Only for emotion. There is no world outside of your partners arms. As you allow your love to take over, your body begins to vibrate, to glow. As you allow your spirit, your soul, to rise with the current, you more and more become the energy you tapped into, the life force, and one with the ALL. You loose the sense of sight, direction, and reality, you are boneless, powerless to coherent thought, and become sensual beings of pure energy, driven on by a force of desire that can’t be denied. Your auras expand, mingle, become one. You feel each other from the inside out, thoughts and moves and feelings are one. You can feel your own hand touching your beloved in HIS body. It could have been hours or minutes, you couldn’t say to save your live. When you explode in a burst of fire and lightning, your bodies dissolve. You are part with the universe, part with everything that was ever alive. And it is now part of you. You can share it and part, or you may retain what you like to bring back. You will never again feel this much alive, this much at peace, as when you have allowed yourself to forget everything and let instinct take over. No room for shame, no room for modesty. And you will never again feel this loved, and this beautiful. Not only in your partner's eyes, but by the whole spectrum of existence. It usually takes quite some time afterwards to come back into your own body, and often one takes parts of the loved one back ... the exchange is so total that you can be left with memories and tastes (for example, I would develop a passion for something I previously found tasteless but that he drinks all the time) that you know aren't your own, but are now..... and part of this is with you always. You will feel the touch of his hair on your hands each time you close your eyes... You will be utterly exhausted physically, and not quite able to walk for a while, but totally sated. The closest I can come to describe it is the time I accidentally slipped a wet finger into a power outlet when wallpapering. I went spinning like a humming top, slammed into the opposite wall, and coming to after I slid down to land on my butt, legs sprawled, hair on end, dazed, but nevertheless grinning stupidly going: ‘WOW!’ There is a very good reason for 'love' magick to be restricted. It should be special, and not misused for personal gain. Remember, you always pay for what you do, the scale will balance again. If you misuse the Mother's gifts, you will loose them. Be patient, if it is meant to be, it will happen to you too. Sex is great, and sharing the fun in ritual may be allright for some of us. But there is -next to the real thing- no power to be had from rutting..... Cheap beer can quench your thirst, but there is no comparison to a good glass of wine :) Green Blessings and always a burning flame Sorceress SummerWind Copyright 2000 |
