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ARRANGED MARRIAGES
Arranged marriage is a traditional habit in which parents and elder
people choose a person they believe or they think is the most suitable
marriage partner for their sons or daughters. The arranged couple then
meets and they share experiences together after marriage; however, could
the arranged marriage work in our days and actual life? We find
different opinions; some people are for the arranged marriage and others
don’t agree.
On one hand, some cultures are for the arranged
marriage, for some beliefs and reasons. They think that the arranged
couple learns to have a deeper love for each other than romantic love.
They build a good relationship tighter and they help each other in the
hard times. They believe that they will have a stable family for their
children. Arranged marriage results in fewer divorces than the marriage
based on romantic love. They consider romantic marriage wrong and not
acceptable by their family and their culture.
On the other hand, people in actual life are
against arranged marriage because they want to share their life with a
person they love and they care about, not with someone they never have
seen and they don’t know anything about. They believe that love,
romance, and passion are essential and very important for two lovers to
be happy and for their marriage to be succeful. They will be able to
survive the hard times because of love; they are closer and they will
always remember the good moments they spent together.
The third solution or the middle one is to mix,
scramble, garble and jumble the arranged marriage with the new style.
Every system and lifestyle in our society has advantages and also
disadvantages. Nobody in our life can ignore the experiences we learn
from past civilizations because life is a school, and everyday we learn
something new or we discover that we are doing something wrong. If
parents want to choose a partner for their sons or daughters, they
should give the future couple time to know each other. Then, the couple
must make their own decision, or parents should let their sons or
daughters choose the partner they want with no pressure from the family.
Life is a big circle. Inside this circle we
find humans and their civilization; therefore, nobody can escape from
this circle without learning basics and skills which we learn from
parents, past civilizations, and our own experience. We can’t step to
the front without stepping to the back sometimes; therefore, we should
always think and find a perfect decision or model from past
civilizations and mix it with actual life, because there’s always a
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DECISION
Everybody will make a decision, which could affect him and the rest of
his life. People make decisions everyday, such as voting, moving, having
kids, etc.; however, my confused decision in my life is about getting
married. We know that everybody gets married at a certain age in his or
her life. Should I marry? If yes, why and for what?
Getting married will change my life a lot. It
will establish and make my destiny more stable and steady than today. I
will no longer be independent because I will share my life with somebody
else who will probably care for me and share my feelings, my problems,
and have kids with me. I will no longer eat out because somebody will
cook for me. Also, I will have somebody who will serve my kids and me.
Having a wife could affect me, and probably my
family too. I will have a family in which I’ll be the responsible
person; that means I’ll work more and spend more money. Probably, my
future wife will put me in a bad situation with my family if she doesn’t
like them or if they don’t like her too. I will lose my freedom, and I
should be prepared for a lot of questions, such as where have you been?
With who? Why are you leaving too early? Why are you late? Why have you
got women’s hair in your t-shirt? Why didn’t you call me? Buy me
these expensive clothes….etc.
Getting married and sharing my life with
somebody else is a tough decision for me. If it’s not today, it will
be tomorrow, but is it going to be the right decision or not? Is it
really going to affect me? Is it going to cause me a problem? I will
discover this experience some day with somebody. |
