An Object of Worship
We are all attracted to people who exhibit self-confidence. This is only natural.
Courtship is, more than anything else, an act of adoration. To be courted you must summon the self-confidence to expect and demand his adoration, to become the object of his desires. Easier said than done, right? Well, not by much.
The only difficult step, it turns out, is to decide with absolute and unswerving sincerity that your goal is to be worshiped by your husband. We'll discuss how later but for now, you only must dedicate yourself to that goal. That is not to say that you will measure your self-esteem by your husband's attention. Rather, you will not accept anything less from your husband than outright worshipful adoration.
Understand that you are worthy of his adoration by the very fact that you are married. You need no further justification than that. You are his wife therefore he should adore you. You have, within you, an erotic potential. That potential was not lost with your youth. It is there still waiting to be reawakened. You must reawaken it within yourself.
To become the object of his worship you must learn to comfortably make the most of your erotic potential with your husband.
This will become the focal point of your new marital relationship. This is not to say that it is a substitute for love. On the contrary, it will become for both of you a new and powerful expression of your love for one another. This will shape and transform your marriage. Your love for him remains certain and unconditional as before. It is romance only, which becomes uncertain and conditional. It is important to distinguish between the two.
Don't worry if you lack confidence in the beginning. Take baby steps to find your way. Confidence will come with positive results. But do not confuse your lack of confidence with your commitment. Be committed and find your way to fulfilling that commitment. Age is not a factor. Weight is not a factor. Beauty is not a factor. These things are not relevant here. Sexual attraction is 90% mental, only 10% physical. Most women are harder on themselves than are their husbands. You don't need to be a beauty queen to be a sex goddess. Females have the essence to attract, captivate and hold sway over men. It is within you and you just need to release it. If you will release this powerful female essence within you, you will have your man begging to romance you. It's all about how you act, not how you look. It's the attitude.
You don't have to be skinny. As a matter of fact, many men like a larger woman. However, you don't want to be fat and you do want to be fit for the sake of your own health and well being. If you are overweight and out of shape, don't feel bad about yourself and don't get discouraged. You can lose the weight. It just takes a quality decision. Proper diet and moderate exercise will lead you in that direction. This article is not a primer in weight reduction. There is much excellent information elsewhere for this. But any steps you take will help you to feel so much better about yourself and the better you feel both physically and mentally, the more confident you will be and the more sexual energy that will be radiating from you.
This
works for one very simple reason: Your husband needs and wants to
worship you. He may not be consciously aware of it but the male psychology
fundamentally desires pursuit. As we have already seen, as much as you desire
to be courted so your husband desires to court. It's our nature as human
beings. You need only exploit that desire. The nature of this desire is,
essentially, sexual. Sex is the goal. And, not coincidentally, it is the means
as well. Sexual desire is what stimulates romantic passion.