J Dating Tips! J

õ Let the guy be a gentleman whether you go out alone or in a group. Let him open doors for you, offer to carry things for you, and walk you to your door at night. If he is polite and treats you with respect while you’re dating, the more likely he will treat you respectfully if you get married. If you don’t get married, then he will at least know how to treat other women!!

õ Do NOT EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER stay in a relationship with a guy who is abusive in any way – verbally, emotionally, or physically. Let him know that his behavior is NOT acceptable to you. This is a no tolerance issue… you deserve better.

õ Never settle! Never lower your standards! No one is perfect, but you know the qualities you look for in a man. Wait for God to send him to you. Don’t settle for the first guy that comes along.

õ Make your personal standards CRYSTAL clear in the relationship. Discuss physical limitations with one another and make sure you’re both on the same page. Don’t be afraid to do this. It is very important. This can come up in conversation starting with, “Some things that are really important to me in a relationship are…” Then clearly define your limits. When you’re done, ask what he thinks. If he is totally opposed to you saving your purity and being chaste, or he pressures you to compromise your limits, then you know what he’s really interested in. Relationships are about giving, not getting. In a dating relationship, you can give your friendship, love, trust, and respect. In marriage, you will also give your whole self. A guy who pressures you to do anything beyond your limits is out to GET – and not interested in giving. Feeling the desire to have sex is not bad! God created us as sexual beings. But fantasizing or pressuring someone else to have sex is wrong! Don’t do it and don’t put up with it!

õ Dress modestly in order to ensure that BOTH your minds remain chaste. This will lower temptation as well. Check out the Modesty page.

õ Don’t lead a guy on… Flirtatious behavior may be interpreted as a sexual interest. Be careful, lest you be confronted with someone who only wants “one thing” from you.

õ Lastly, no is NO. If a guy does not respect that, tell him to scram. The split second it takes to make the decision to have sex could change your life forever. You could become pregnant – an unwed mother; become infected with an STD; and lose a gift you will never be able to get back – your virginity, which should go to your husband only. Save it for the man who you know without a doubt is your true love (your husband!). If you’ve already given it away, save again! It’s never too late to be chaste.

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