Dear Lily:
May God bless you. Your boyfriend is wrong and maybe being very selfish or ignorant, not knowing the bible. Whatever the reason is you need to look and pray very carefully before going further with him. Where in the relationship is he compromising instead of trying to help?
1. About the things you wrote: "It is good for a man not to have relations with a woman."
2. But because of sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife, and each woman should have her own husband. 1 Corinthians 7: 1 - 2
The bible clearly states we should get married to avoid immorality.
The fact whether he will marry you or not is not a valid reason. Please remember that sin is what we are supposed to abstain from and remember that the bible says that “Whatsoever a man soweth, so shall he reap”. So when you think that the sin that you have committed has been forgotten, I hope it does not come back to haunt you and him. The bible is TRUTH, it says that SO shall he reap. So there will be a time of reaping if it has not gone already. It may be waiting to manifest itself in the future. This is why the bible encourages us to abstain from sin because sin has a PENALTY and PRICE. For some reason, when this man is supposed to encourage you and to remind you of the bible, he is encouraging you to sin. This may be a sign, a sign that when is supposed to protect the home he may, for whatever reasons has turned to be apart of the devil’s plan to destroy you and himself. Am I right, did Christ die in vain or did he die because sin has a price and we couldn’t pay that price? Can we be redeemed by committing sin? Tell me.
This is one of the reasons why it recommended not to be sexually involved when dating but to develop a FRIENDSHIP. A friendship where you can do thing together and not be involve in an intimate way.
INTIMATE means: a relationship where there is sexual (sensual) kissing, caressing, touching, groping, feeling or intercourse of any kind.
Many have taken up this tradition and have found themselves in a worst situation than where you are now. Some have compromised their relationship with God and even got themselves pregnant in the process. Please read this page if you have not read it before.
http://www.oocities.org/dearvince/dating.html
If you look at the page it will say “I would not recommend any intimate kissing, caressing, touching, groping or sex in this stage.” Here is the question for you, are you doing this now. Many have also got themselves into a relationship with an unsaved.
I would like to know what you think, please write me back.
If you feel this advice is of great help I would love to ask your prayers, asking God to provide the means to continue to do this, in righteousness and with his wisdom.
Yours
Vince
