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dating [noun]
activity of going on dates: the activity of going out regularly with somebody as a social or romantic partner
prelude to marriage: the period of a romantic relationship before marriage
- It is best to date a person who is approved and the entire relationship led by the Holy Spirit. Romans 8:10-16
God can lead you to the right person that you should marry. Knowing the Lord’s will may take sometime but through diligently seeking him in prayer and fasting, God can reveal his will to you. He has promised us through his word that the Holy Spirit will lead us into all truth. If you need to learn to hear his voice, please take our online course.
- It is not recommended to date or marry someone who is not a genuine Christian. The
bible clearly recommend christians not to marry a unbeliever.
"Be ye not unequally YOKED together with un-believers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? And what communion hath light with darkness?" 2 Corinthians 6:14
- Christian dating is NOT an intimate relationship.
INTIMATE means: a relationship where there is sexual (sensual) kissing, sexual caressing, sexual touching, sexual groping, sexual feeling sexual intercourse of any kind or any inappropriate actions. It is a friendship while getting to know each other, this is because before you start dating, it would be good to know if the Lord is leading you into the relationship.
- Spending time dating can be used for getting to KNOW one another as the Lord leads you. Developing a friendship at the beginning can strengthen the relationship. You can select the right person to be involved with, through the friendship, before entering into a deeper relationship. It is like buying an automobile. You are looking and investigating but you are not personally involved until a certain date (marriage).
You can be friends while getting to know each other. Being friends should eliminate doubts, worries, fears, and any unreasonable expectations so you can focus on getting to know one another. It should give you a platform to look at the relationship with a clear vision and mind set.
"And we beseech you, brethren, to know them which labor among you, and are over you in the Lord, and admonish you." 1Thessalonians 5:12
- Avoid saying or doing romantic things until you have spent enough time getting to know one another and until you have sought the Lord for his will for your life. Being involved in this manner may cause you to get emotionally involved too soon. It is recommended to get to know each other first, knowing the other person's likes, dislikes and faults.
- Avoid making future plans together until you have spent enough time getting to know one another and until you have sought the Lord for his will for your life.
- Don't move too fast to intimacy. Be careful of unwanted pregnancies, diseases, hurts or unnecessary pain, please take the precautions to prevent these from happening.
INTIMATE means: a relationship where there is sexual (sensual) kissing, caressing, touching, groping, feeling or intercourse of any kind.
"It is good for a man not to touch a woman [sexually, intimately]."1 Corinthians 7:1
- Don't allow yourself or your friends to treat both of you as a couple until the relationship is ready for it. Explain to them that both of you are at the stage of getting to know each other(friends) which is far more important that being conceived as a couple. If both of you agree on having a more romantic relationship, have spent enough time getting to know one another and have sought the Lord for his will for your life then it is wise for others to know both of you as a couple. These precautions are there to be of help to avoid problems in the relationship. Many churches encourage the members to involve the Pastor and the leaders into the relationship as early as possible.
- "It is good for a man not to touch a woman [sexually, intimately]."1 Corinthians 7:1
There is a price or penalty to pay for committing a sin. Having sex and touching inappropriately may bring you two to be emotionally attached too soon. It is recommended to get to know each other, to know God's will for your life and until after the marital ceremony to have sex or touch in any sexual, sensual way.
"Guard your heart with all diligence." Proverbs 4:23
- I would not recommend any intimate kissing, caressing, touching, groping or any sexual activity in this stage until marriage. There is generally a type of kissing that is appropriate for a brother kissing a sister, that is okay and anything that is conceived to be wrong between a father and a daughter or a brother and a sister is not recommended, whether it is kissing, caressing, touching, groping or any sexual activity.
- A thorough overall look at the entire person would be well advised. Where they are from, where they ever arrested, are they good to their parents, is there insanity in their family, is this person addicted to looking at adult magazine, picture or videos, have this person ever raped someone, or a pedophile. Many individuals enter into relationship with baggage, whether emotionally, mentally or physiologically. Make sure all the baggage are dealt with before you marry. Taking a look at their complete history, this may include hereditary diseases that may affect them mentally, physically or spiritually. If you are going to be with the person for the rest of your life, you will need to know in depth details about this person because it is wise to know about the person you are considering marrying.
After you have spent enough time in this stage, you may move to engagement, which is a part of marriage.
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