state of being apart: the state or duration of being apart from other things or people
agreement not to live together: the act of stop living together as husband and wife while remaining married
This stage may be temporary stage.
"Can two walk together, except they be agreed?" Amos 3:3
If you stay in this stage too long you may need to be remarried again, to renew your vows.
This is a stage where you can work out your differences. You can do this by reeducating yourself, getting good advice, counseling, getting the healing through a deliverance minister and plain applying the word of God.
Is there is anger between you and your mate? You will need to ask God to remove all of the ANGER from your hearts, through fasting and prayer even if things weren't your faults, your healing is far more important in order for you to be healthy for the future. Fasting and prayer is ONE of the spiritual way to deal with the complications that affect the marriage, here are others ways. If the person has a history of ANGER or any other reoccurring bad habits. This is a great sign the the relationship need deliverance [healing]. A reoccurring bad habit shows that there is a stronghold that has developed, in that person's life and it need to be treated. But don't discount yourself out, if you are married to an individual who has one or more of these strongholds in their life. You may need deliverance [healing] also, because you have married this individual without addressing this stronghold more serious before the marriage and you may need to learn how to fight a good fight to overcome conditions that maybe affecting your relationship. There is something that you may have MISSED, because you didn't see the problem before, you may not have spent enough time to properly "get to know" each other before the marriage. That means that you need counseling and or deliverance [healing]. Every problem is caused by something, so both individuals MUST take responsibility for THEIR own part.
You can take some time to “fast and pray”. To get over the hurts and anything negative such as: ANGER, UNFORGIVENESS, BITTERNESS, RESENTMENT, etc.
"What therefore God has joined together, let not man put asunder." Matthew 19:6
"Better is it that thou shoudest not vow, than that thou shoudest vow and not pay." Ecclesiastes 5:5
Because marriage is a SERIOUS decision and not be entered into lightly. If you are having complications it is a great indicator that you need certain knowledge, understanding and deliverance [healing].. The bible says that with wisdom a house is build. So, you should seek to find the wisdom, knowledge and understanding that is needed.
God should lead you to the mate that you are going to marry. It may take time to seek the Lord for his revelation. Doing this can bring a great spiritual growth into your life. If you are one of those who are having a hard time understanding the will of the Lord for your life. You need to first understand that 1) God is not dead, he is alive 2) he is speaking to many others and you need to prepare yourself through the proper teachings and prayer, so you will hear from God. Through earnestly seeking God, he can reveal the truth to you. He has promised us through his word that the Holy Spirit will lead you into all truth.
We need to look at the entire person.
* Their complete history. This may include hereditary diseases that may affect them mentally, physically or spiritually.
The teaching of divorce is a controversy in the church but you should not get CONFUSED. You need to seek the Lord for the TRUTH and for his will for your life. Far too many have gotten married while God had someone else better for them to marry, because they didn't wait upon the Lord for the CLEAR answer. Their marital life has ended up into serious complications, people it is far better to know what the Lord wants you to do before you get divorce.
"Don't worry about anything, but in everything, through prayer and petition with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God." Philippians 4:6
The Bible does give one condition where a person may divorce their mate. It is for fornication, which is sexual immorality but we are to remember that christians are called to love even their very human ENEMIES. So, a process of restoration and healing is probably necessary, to bring back the relationship into a healthy state. The bible says, that, at all possible live peacefully with all men.
"And I say unto you, whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for FORNICATION, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery." Matthew 19:9
Fornication means sexual sins outside the marital covenant.
"For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be ONE flesh. Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder." Matthew 19:5-6
We must not forget forgiveness. If there is a position to exercise "forgiveness" we must do so. We are called to live peaceable with EVERYONE.
"Let us therefore follow after the things which make for peace, and things wherewith one may edify another." Romans 14:19
"Do your part to live in peace with everyone, as much as possible." Romans 12:18
Here are some things that you can do to bring a healing in your relationship.
* You can fast and pray. Praying for God to use the things to position both of you for a change of heart, to get your hearts in the right place. For the Lord to remove all the strongholds that are holding both of you back from being a better person. Asking God to impart all the knowledge that is needed, to stir up the desire for spiritual things, to defeat and to overcome all negative thinking and actions.
*** It is best advised to be informed about fasting FIRST, before doing anything that might harm yourself. ***
* Talk to the Pastor or other mature christians. These mature individual can administer counseling where it is needed.
* Speak to the condition. Speaking to the condition is a direct thing. Command the condition to change.
* 1Peter 3:9, talks about YOUR conduct. Two wrongs don't make righteousness. She is responsible for her actions.
* Ask others to pray with for her. Where there are two or more are gathered, and are praying together, the bible says that the believer will have what they are asking for.
* Rebuking the devil, you are just rebuking all the demonic activities that are adding to the condition.
Marriage is a spiritual union of the opposite sex, where there should be happiness and peace. If you are finding that the relationship is not peaceful, it is wise to begin to seek HELP. If you visit this page.
I believe that marriage is the second most important decision we will make, just below salvation. Both are until death.
"Better is it that thou shoudest not vow, than that thou shoudest vow and not pay." Ecclesiastes 5:5
This is a reason why marriage should not be entered into lightly. It is a SERIOUS decision. Many may not been properly prepared for this institution, but my warning to you, to please get enough knowledge and understanding. You should change your life by APPLICATION of the knowledge and understanding you receive.
God should lead you to the mate that you are going to marry. This may take time to seek the Lord for his revelation. Through earnestly seeking God, he can reveal the truth to you. He has promised us through his word that the Holy Spirit will lead us into all truth.
Here is one of the things that causes a marriage to fail, it happens when a young couple get involved and commit sin. But there is a price to pay and later on in their marital relationship, the penalty of the sin that happened BEFORE, is manifested and cause the relationship to be under stress. Stress that would not be there before, but because of the sins committed PREVIOUSLY, they may now need healing, counseling or deliverance to improve the relationship.
If both of you have argued with each other, more than eight times, please reconsider getting engaged or married to this person. A relationship is about happiness, togetherness, cooperation and commitment. So, if the two of you are not “agreeing”, this is a big indicator, that something is wrong. Anger is a “red flag” to warn the couple that this relationship may need more or the person may not be the one for you or “this relationship need too much work, to get it into a healthy state.” People come into a relationship with their own problems, be wise before you get caught up into something that is not for you. Why play fix it, there are many wonderful people out there, who you can get along peacefully without all the extra “drama.”
"Every purpose is established by counsel and with good advice make war." Proverbs 20:18
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