Online shidduchim meeting(how to meet via the internet)

Changing entry & how I can help.

shidduchim shidduch shidduchim shidduch jewish singles shidduchim shidduch shidduchim shidduch jewish singles shidduchim shidduch shidduchim shidduch jewish singles I have had some experience meeting people via the internet with shidduchim & I would like to tell you my feelings on how to go about it. Contact the party via e-mail with a brief description of yourself & why your interested. If the other party responds positively, write a few more e-mails back & forth. DO NOT GET YOURSELF EMOTIONALLY ATTACHED TO SOMEONE YOU HAVE NOT MET, it is a real let-down when you do. After the first few e-mails maybe try meeting on the chat-room I suggested. Its quiet & nice. You will most likely see that you misunderstood much about the person via e-mail. That is because it is IMPOSSIBLE to truly understand someone & tell if their your basheret via e-mail, the phone, and a photograph. I say this from experience. Conversing daily with each other is usually harmfull to both neshamos unless you've set to meet in a matter of weeks. Your not a married couple, you should not put your emotions in the position of following each others every move. Your goal is to get to know the other party enough to make a proper decision if you should go out. When & if you talk on the phone, you will be able to clarify things much better & really get more of an understanding. But once the voices meet and you think it connects afterwards, your going to need to meet each other soon. The meeting should not be delayed. I would suggest that after a week or maybe two, you call up two references each. Yes, calling references can many times be a complete joke, but do it anyway. At least you can compare the idea you got from e-mails to the references stretched out balogna. The best reference is the Rav because at least he will give you a more honest opinion. I havent had good luck with Rebbizens as they just love everybody and will exagerate naturally. To go back to what I was saying before, the internet is for making initial contact, not building a relationship. So make contact, see if you would like to go out and meet as soon as possible. When you meet, it either clicks or doesnt.If you follow my instructions, I think there will be less feelings hurt. Also, please be on your best behavior!!! This site is for good Midos dating!!

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HOW DOES THIS DATABASE WORK. I chose to keep things simple. Everyone fills out the simple profile leaving their e-mail or they can give a friends if they have permission. If you do that or you are a shadchan leaving names, please write that in the form. IF ANYONE NEEDS A 3RD PARTY OR SOME HELP, I WILL B'N TRY TO HELP. Just send me an e-mail. I ask that you fill out the form carefully so we dont have to make a change. If you absolutely need to change something, contact me. I can access the server and make corrections & or take you off the list. But this is time consumming to do often. I honestly dont want to do it that much. The problem is that everyone always says to much or to little. Think things through well before submitting. Better to say to little than to much. Well thats the story and I hope you appreciate this site. If you can help me in anyway, please let me know. There are no picture url's, because its better if you make the foundation first via comparing Torah values. Then it's a good idea to send pictures to one another. Thank you and may Hashem guide you in the path of self perfection to a level where you will be able to reunite with you missing halves. All the best! Moshe

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