A special friend of mine forwarded this letter from an "adopted" mother 
          written to the "birth mother"
 and I feel it is beautiful and want to share.  
I hope you enjoy.





Below is a letter I wrote to My Son's Birth Mother...I think of her every
year at this time...Mother's Day right around the corner...I can not send it
to her...But, if my letter can touch the heart of a birth mother...or a child
that has been adopted...or someone who has adopted a child...then so be
it...this letter is written with all my love~

Dear Birth Mother,

As Mothers' Day approaches, it seems a special thank you is appropriate; but
how does one say thank you for so great a gift of love? At this time every
year, I have a deep longing to connect with someone who will always be
important to me... I feel sure that you think of me also on this day, or
rather know you are thinking of a special young man that is "our son"...
I might thank you for the many Mothers' Days when I was the special person
honored.... when you were not remembered...My wish is to have the chance to
 thank you for giving birth to that beautiful baby boy and trusting that I
would somehow do the best job I know how to raise him...
I might thank you for the opportunity to tip-toe up to his bed... I used to
stand there, marveling at his perfectness, with tears running silently down
my cheeks... He was so tiny, so beautiful; I somehow knew, even then, my
happiness was at the expense of your pain...
Or there was the time, in a parking lot, with my arms full that I felt his
small hand tugging.... As I reached down for his hand, I was caught off guard
by his eyes, so trusting, looking up at me...I do thank you for that sticky
little hand, that moment when he looked to me for guidance...
And long after the debate about who is the Real Mom and the dirty diapers and
the up-all-night-fever-and-vomiting has been forgotten, I will still thank
you... Without the diapers and without the hours and fevers, I would never
have known the love share in so many hours of holding, rocking, and
soothing....
I have to thank you also for these pre-teen-age years-- these years of chaos
for both child and family.... Without these years, understanding would not
have been so deep... Somehow, looking at the world through your child's
troubled eyes and heart colors your own world a deeper shade of blue....
But how can I ever thank you for the sparkle, the dance, the rainbow that you
wove through my life with your gift? There is no way to ever capture the
wonder of his song and give it back to you...The melody drifts in the winds
of the years... The song of his childhood is my own--I can only share with
you the Beauty of the young man he has become.... So much of me, yet some of
you....he has grown to be a handsome, creative, and very sensitive young man
of whom I am extremely proud of and I love with all my heart and soul...
Perhaps that is the way to say thank-you--by sharing with you now the beauty
that is my son and the miracle you created....

I thank you with all my heart,
                               Your Son's Mom,
                                                                       Peggy

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