LDR

There are many different kinds of long distance love; online relationships, penpals, couples who are separated by work (such as soldiers, oil-rig workers, etc), separation due to imprisonment or hospitalisation etc. Some are permenant, some are temporary, some begin as LDR's and others are forced to become them due to situations.

As wonderful as it can be, a long-distance relationship can be very hard; evidently they go through, on average, more obstacles and problems than others.

It takes two strong hearts, a lot of quality time and effort to make it work out. There are many good stories to hear, but also some bad ones, as not all work out. That's just the way love goes.

But this page is for those who are in a "LDR" or who are considering one, or who just want extra romantic ideas, to try and offer a little bit of help and information that i have learned, and also provide many links of helpful places to visit!

Any specific questions you would like to ask me about love/romance/LDR's or tips you have that u would like me to add, you can, using my guestbook and leaving your email, (if u do not want the message to be posted publically you can tell me this in your message and i won't do!) and i will try and help if i can :)!

A helpful site for those of you in any stage of an internet relationship is:

www.wildxangel.com

This site is truly helpful as it not only details the down sides of meeting someone online but gives you advice and pointers to look out for, ways to protect yourselves, and helpful links.
This allows you to feel more empowered about your situation, and be able to assure yourself that you are not leading yourself into any danger or entering a new situation with your eyes closed! Please, check it out!!

Also a website full of advice and tips, and a vast array of ecards is www.lovingyou.com, truly the long distance love/ online relationship bible! :) But also helpful for all couples!

If things are getting very difficult in your LDR then the Long Distance Relationship Support website is another good place to visit! They really do act as a supportive and reassuring site if you are feeling its all becoming too much sometimes.

Also a helpful article on LDR's can be found here.

The Internet Romance Organisation also have a useful website, with advice for all stages of a relationship and other real-life stories to read.

Ben and Jennie have just gotten married after a US/UK long distance relationship, and so their website is full of great info on LDR's and also how to go through immigration and the K-1 visa process! (also full of lovely piccies of their big day :)!!)

The best piece of advice i can give for maintaining a LDR or any romance, is communication, and commitment.
A lot of effort is rewarded with a lot of love and effort returned from your partner!

Even though the times may get very hard, you may even question why you are putting yourself through this, it is important that you both talk about how you are feeling, share your feelings and fears and be prepared to listen with an open mind to what your love has to say, then you can both learn things and see what it is you need to work harder at! It takes a lot of commitment, but if you truly feel this person is wonderful, and special to you, then you will find a way to cope with it all, and work your way through it. Having goals to focus on can help, things you both want (e.g to eventually live together, to visit one another etc)

But this page is for those who are in a "LDR" or who are considering one, or who just want extra romantic ideas, to try and offer a little bit of help and information that i have learned, and also provide many links of helpful places to visit!

Any specific questions you would like to ask me about love/romance/LDR's or tips you have that u would like me to add, you can, using my guestbook and leaving your email, (if u do not want the message to be posted publically you can make it a "private post" and it wont show up to other visitors!) and i'll try and help :)

Special Sections:
(just click the link)

*New* Online Romance Issues Page!
Discussing and offering advice and links for a whole manner of aspects of cyber romance from meeting someone online, to online infidelity!

*ROMANCE AND IDEAS!
All manner of ideas for relationships and parcels, CARE PACKAGES etc to keep that flame alive!!

*Seasons!
Autumn:
Having a LDR or Meeting your loved one this Autumn? Check out my special seasonal page for ideas and info!

Winter
Many more romantic ideas and info for the winter/Xmas season :)

*Meeting!
Information about meeting
your partner for the first time, flight tips, safety, ideas etc.

*Coping with loneliness/missing
your love. Some ideas and help.

*Break-ups
Advice, and helpful links etc.

*Feng Shui ideas for good romance!!

Any Good Points to an online relationship/LDR???!:

This is intended as a lighthearted view for those of you who are feeling a little down because you are in love with someone you originally met/onlly able to keep in touch with online and feel there is little to celebrate or feel exceptional about to your circumstances, nothing can take away the tough reality of it, but hopefully these CAN make you smile and feel special ;)!!...

*You get to really get to know their personality well, share laughs and ask questions etc a lot easier than in real life and probably more quicker, because the physical aspect isn't there so much, so consequently u spend more time on the emotional and spiritual things.

*If you are a little shy or not too social etc then its easier to talk to someone you like through a screen than face to face, i know it was like that for me, im such a shy lady when i like someone and its hard for me to express how i feel in those early face to face meetings etc, but online u can be yourself without worrying about things like how you are looking, or whether you have lettuce in your teeth etc, lol! Obviously the intention is to one day soon meet face to face, but by that time hopefully those first nerves etc will have dissipated and you will have made your first impressions already :)

*There are no outside influences directly for a while, its just you and him/her talking, with no friends or family to really meddle in it and demand time to meet them etc, its just the two of you, giving you more time to grow and strengthen as a couple.

*If your online love is in another country it really broadens your cultural awareness, gives you the chance to see new people, places, cultures, etc to what u may have before, and it really does help you to learn more about the world.

*It helped me to add better lol, constantly adding 6hours onto the time to figure out what time it was for him really improved my mental arithmatic hehe lol :)

*You go through more together, so grow stronger, its a more intense relationship when u miss one another, have to go months without them etc... its good character building and i think really helps you to learn more about yourself!

*I think you take each other for granted less.... i had my friends who saw their boyfs everyday and they always argued over silly stuff and played games etc, whereas i wished they'd just be grateful to have another close, it really makes you assess whats important!

* You build a soild foundation of support, love, trust, fidelity, loyalty, honesty, fun and COMMUNICATION for your relationship to carry you throuhg the years!

*Makes you a computer whizzkid and gives you great typing speeds hehee :)

*Through my experience of an online relationship i met a lot of kind and great people, both those who were friends and family of my loved one, and also on forums etc where i got to share my experience with people who understood! :) Plus, i got great inspiration for this website too :)