Journal-October 2002

2002-10-15; Learning a new language....

I just realized that I haven’t had a date in a few months. Oddly, I haven’t felt very lonely. I suppose it is because my job keeps me extremely busy. However, occasionally I desire some company. It would be nice to date every now and then (I don’t really desire a relationship), but I don’t know really how to go about it.

In some regards, I find talking to women very easy. My past life gives me insights that most men could never obtain, but when it comes to talking to women I’m interested in, I find everything is far more difficult. I don’t think I’m direct enough. I obviously show my interest in a way that is more friendly than sexual. I try to wait until I feel she is signaling a sexual interest in me, but I rarely read that signal. In fact, the only time I read that signal is from unavailable women. I have found that for the most part, unavailable women flirt, and available women do not. I think in order to have more of an interaction with available women, I need to be a bit more aggressive. I don’t mean I have to hit on them or buy them drinks, I think I just need to lay a little more information out there for her to pick up on. I need to spell out that I’m interested, instead of waiting for her to make the first move. It is easier said than done, however.


2002-10-24; Putting a nail through the slippery rug (A flashback entry)....

A year ago, my journal entry was about how vulnerable I felt about being found out in new endeavors in my life. I worried about my new employer finding out my situation, and I worried about having credit reports being done and revealing my old name. I still have some concerns about these things today, but they are very minimal fears. I really give very little thought to being “clocked”. I suppose it could always bite me in the ass someday, but I don’t think the bite would signal a catastrophic event.

I don’t know where my new confidence has come from exactly. Perhaps it is that I’ve become accustom to my new life, or it is simply that I’m too busy to be concerned about it these days.

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