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Given the fact that your
'maleness' does not rely solely on your genitals,
I promised you a lighter, fluffier question next
and here it is: I want to know more about your
self-image and expression of your masculinity in
terms of clothes, fragrances, toiletries,
possessions...what are you into?
It's amazing that most people give me aftershave
as a gift - especially those who know of the
transition. It seems to be their way of saying
"I accept you as a male, even though I know
it is going to take some time before you can
really start shaving!" I now have so many
bottles of the stuff, and so many different
brands, too, I have not yet been able to develop
my own preferences!
In my form of dress, I am a little conservative.
Now I don't know whether this is because wearing
a suit - or rather not wearing jeans - emphasises
the maleness more or whether it is because I
really feel more comfortable.
I do wear jeans, of course, but only where I know
wearing anything more formal would look silly. On
the other hand it could also be because as a
journalist (and at one time a croupier) I almost
always had to wear a tie, if not necessarily a
suit. As a croupier it was even more formal, as
those who frequent casino's or watch James Bond
movies would know.
In terms of possessions - what can I say. I'm not
a terribly materialistic person. My passion is
books and music, so I spend most of my
hard-earned money on that. The only form of
jewelry I wear is a very nice Seiko Quartz
wristwatch given to me by a girlfriend eight
years ago. But I somehow don't think my
"maleness" has anything to do with
that. I think it is my personality anyway. Men
have piercings, but I shudder at the thought.
I live in a bachelor's unit. And I think anyone
would recognise it as such. There is nothing
feminine about it - except the bits of pink in
the floor tiles, but that is not through choice.
Because I live alone, I sometimes have to cook
for myself. But I have mastered the art of
getting myself invited for supper, and I have a
wonderful family who make sure I will not starve,
or whenever I get tired of my own rather boring
meals. I'm pretty conventional in that as well. I
prefer home-cooked meals, and seldom eat out
(except out of tins) at restaurants, and even
less seldom go for take-outs.
I have a maid who comes in twice a week to do the
real deep clean stuff and wash and iron my
clothes. I suppose I could do that if I really
wanted to, but I don't particularly want to.
As for my women? Soft, gentle and feminine. The
more elegant the better. She must also be the
type who would prefer a cosy evening at home with
me, rather than at clubs or bars. She must enjoy
being wined and dined, which would include
old-fashioned theatre (and I really mean
old-fashioned as in Shakespeare), but also the
odd modern genre (like Pieter Dirk Uys). Love
picnics, long scenic drives, but not much into
walks or beaches. All-in-all, a very ordinary
man. Oh yeah, we will sometimes do things she
likes, too, if it doesn't match mine, like go
shopping.
So I am no different really to hundreds and
thousands of men. Read my profile, you read the
profile of your father or brother or male cousin.
Nothing spectacular. Just human. Just me.
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