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Being popular:
What teens had to say about being popular

Notes on Signals and Flirtation:
for alot of shy people they dont know what the signals of flirting are so we'll list them out.

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This is what teens had to say about being popular:

The way I became more popular was by showing people the real me! That's all it took! I thought it was going to take more than that, but it didn't.
April Lamb Ellisville, Minnesota

All you really need to be "cool" or "popular" is friendliness or kindness. You don't have to be a super model that thinks she/he has to be superior among other people. That's not the way it has to be. Just be yourself, and people will admire that.
Trish Wichas New York, New York

I believe that the judgment connecting to popularity is just a human flaw. I myself am very judgmental, even though I preach against how you shouldn't do it. Come to terms that you're not perfect first, before you condemn anyone else.
Frances Darwin Oakville, Ontario

I'm not popular. I'm nice. If people would just take the time to get to know me. Anyway, at all the schools I have been to (at least) the "popular" kids are the ones who are maturer and richer and dress nicer and have four wheelers and $500 dollar shoes and live on the "ritzy" side of town. Well, I admit. I am not ANY of those, yet the one thing that matters the most is what is inside. On the inside I am nice, funny, fun, outgoing, always wanting to do SOMETHING.
Josh S. San Diego, CA

Popularity is an illusion to most people. To one person, a person can be popular, and to another person, a total nerd. Popularity is gained through respect from people. You don't have to observe popularity as knowing the upper-class popular people, but having respect from people that you in turn care about. No matter how popular you are, every person views another person differently. Just make the most out of your high school years. Don't worry about popularity, because that usually gives you an opportunity to be yourself which gets respect for you.
Jennifer Steckbeck Murfreesboro,TN

To be popular, it's not to "flirt" with boys or "impress" the boys. To be popular, just be kind, nice, and be friendly. All it takes is only that little.
Cynthia Yip New York City, New York

Ok, basically, there is only a very small group of "popular" people. And they aren't even popular at all. They think they are, but they are no different than anybody else. Who is "popular" in one person's eyes may not be the same person as in another's. So don't worry about who is popular and who isn't. Because in the long run, popularity won't make a difference.
McKenzie Furlington Sunrise, Florida

A lot of kids want to be in the so called "popular/cool crowd." But the truth is that if you worry so much about being popular then you will be missing out on a lot of great friends. Because there are more people that are average than are "Popular." If you worry too much about being popular then you most likely won't be having as much fun as you want to and would be putting a lot of pressure on yourself.
Elizabeth Lopez Riverdale, New York

I used to be really unpopular. I was rude and uncaring towards others and they treated me the same way I had always treated them. But it was when I decided that I was done being hated, and it was time to be liked, everything changed. I started to act nicer towards everyone and respecting them, and they soon treated me the same way. I was sitting in a class meeting today, and I realized that I talk to over 85% of my class on a daily basis. Just be genuine and people will notice. And always keep a smile on your face!!
Dayna Gray Antwerp, Ohio

In my mind, you are popular if you have the respect of most people. Not just the 20 or whatever people who are considered "popular." So many of my friends look up and praise the popular people because they are "cool." But who determines what is cool, and what is not? Only you can decide. Don't try to be like the "popular" people, because in the end, only your true friends and yourself will be there.
Emmy A. Ft. Collins, Colorado

The way I became popular was by being me! I didn't try to pretend to be something or someone that I wasn't, I was just me.
Lamar Jordan Loris, South Carolina

Being Popular isn't always a good thing -- I mean, if you do something embarrasing, everyone knows who you are!
Khristel Nica Suarez Yuma, Arizona