Hi!
I can't remember all what I read about cheating and marriage. I do agree that my cheating to my ex-husband was what you guys called "positive affair". I, however, believe that people cheat because they have issues unresolved with their partners, not because we are "naturally polygamous". My ex-husband and I had lots of issues unresolved and we were too immature to solve them. I have been in many relationships since then (6 years ago) where I did not feel the need to cheat and haven't. I believe relationships are very tough and many people when they find themselves dissatisfied with something, they do things to get back at their partners and one of them is cheating. This, I find it to be a very negative way to deal with problems. It doesn't help anyone (the lover, the partner or the person who is cheating). In the animal kingdom, we find a lot of animals that mate for life. Humans are supposed to be above the animal kingdom, so it is possible for them too. What humans need to do is become wise, knowledgeable and mature and then they will be able to engage in a mature and enriching relationship. When people love themselves, have integrity and know what they want is when they are capable of giving and expecting that from their mates. Wise people know how to deal with their problems and find enrichment in life with and without their partner, without the need to cheat. I am not saying that individuals are not capable of liking someone else just because they are involved. In this respect, I do believe we tend to be attracted to the opposite sex (or same sex, for that matter) for life and even having lustful thoughts about someone else is part of human nature. What I disagree is with the act of acting upon our desires when we are committed to someone, then unresolved issues do exist. Another example, in the business world, the business that is most successful is the business that functions in an atmosphere of honesty, integrity and respect toward all workers and customers. When the opposite occurs, failure is surely to follow in one way or another. Anyway, this is my opinion about your article,
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