Dear GG: I just found out that my girlfriend slept with someone else before she met me. We haven't slept together, and I was going to ask her to marry me. But now I don't know. She was the one who told me about it, and I forgave her, but now I don't know what to do.

Get tested. Right now. Both of you. (Most STDs (not all) are not only transmitted through intercourse, but also through various other means of intimate contact) And while you're waiting for the results, ask that poor girl to marry you. (Well, maybe not right away, but as soon as you were going to anyways.) She's probably been beating herself over the head with this since you two got serious. You say you forgave her, now act like it. This should change very little in your relationship, and if anything, it should bring you closer, because now there are no secrets. There will be, for a while, a small doubt in your mind that she is being honest with you, but if you've forgiven her, you won't let that affect the way you treat her.

#7:

Dear GoodyGoody: A while back, I succumbed to peer pressure, and went to a frat party with a few "friends". Then, silly me, I fell again, and had a few drinks. I got drunk, blacked out, and am now pregnant. I have looked into my options, and am chosing to have my child adopted, but I don't know who the father is, nor what to tell my parents (who pay for my school).

Dear, get yourself tested for everything test-for-able, and narrow down the choices of possible fathers (if you can). And with your parents, you've got two choices: don't go home for 9 months and pay for your hospital bill yourself, OR, after much prayer, tell them that you messed up, but you have checked into adoption, want to continue your education, and have worked out everything on your end of the deal, and ask their forgiveness. Make sure that you get a set time when you can talk to them face-to-face, and let them know in advance that you want to talk to them about something important. They will most likely be supportive and forgiving.

#8:

Dear G-G: My boyfriend and I set sexual boundaries when we first started dating, but now we have gone beyond those boundaries. I feel horrible about it, but apparently he doesn't. What can I do?

You can tell him that you both messed up and it's not solely either one of your faults. Both of you have broken promises to one another, and you want to make it right. If he agrees, then you both need to approach God's throne of mercy with prayer, and he will forgive you. Then you need to re-commit yourselves to one another, and to God. But if he doesn't agree, then you have a decision to make: Is he worth sacrificing your moral standards?

#9:

To God, where are you? I need you to tell me how to live? I'm from an outlying mountain area of Fujian China, and I am a freshman of Fuzhou University. In my home town, I'm the first daughter of peasants to enter a university. My hometown is a poor and backward village. Last year, each of receipts yearly is almost 900 Yuan RMB, convert into US dollar is about more than $100. For I'm the first, the villagers pool money to let me go to school. In my family, There are three brothers and two sisters. My parents have poor consititution and illnesses because of overworking themselves. The two older brothers had going out for a work at a distant place. They work very hard, but their wage is too few to pay the cost of my families. As the eldest daughter in my family, I'm very ashamed that I can't support my parents for I go to university. The first school year has over, but I can't go home, I have to work and to make a little profit for my families. I don't know, next school year, I want to continue the school work or have to work. Cost of every term is more than 3000 Yuan, it makes me very difficult. If I stop the study, I'm very sorry to my villagers. And if I continue the study, I'm sorry to my conscience. Where is my way? I don't know. God, my God, help me!

Woah! It is good that you want to help your family. Most American young people don't give a second thought to their families. When you are done with your studies at the university, you will probably be able to get a better job, and therefore be able to help your family more. Approach your schoolwork with diligence and prayer, always doing the best that you can, and you will be successful. This is the manner in which you should always approach everything, all of life: With Diligence and Prayer.

#10

Dear GG: Our pastor has just resigned because of rumors being spread in the church. He is starting a new church elsewhere, and a few of the congregation are going with him. Many others have left this church for another in the area. I don't know what to do. I liked the pastor, but my parents didn't. How can I tell them this? And should I "Obey my parents" or follow my feelings?

That depends on how old you are. I'm assuming that you're at least a teenager, and so should be exhibiting some of the signs of independance. Let your parents know that you would like to attend the other church, and don't bother them if they don't want to. Do your own footwork. If you drive, take yourself there, and if not, arrange for your own ride. If your parents forbid you to go, then, well, you are their child, and they are to be obeyed. Show them that you will comply, and be nice about it. Don't create problems each sunday and wednesday. This will make them doubt your maturity and independance, and thus make the possibility of them letting you go to the other church less likely.