This is a sticky situation. Have you spoken with her since then? I think that you need to let her know that you need to talk. Set up a time when you can be "uninterrupted," but not "secluded," or away from other people entirely. Then apologize for the way you may have sounded, and explain to her everything that you've just told me. If she's not willing to talk about such sensitive subjects after 1 1/2 years, then either she has some problems she needs to work through (possibly brought up not to speak of sensitive subjects), doesn't think of you as a serious "couple" yet, or just doesn't want to deal with the stress right now. In any case, if you love her, let her know that it is important, and you do need to talk about it, but you respect her, and are willing to wait.

Dear GG; I'm thoroughly enjoying college life, but i'll be glad for the break. And the break is my problem. My boyfriend and a few of our friends made plans for christmas together here with them and some of the church family, but my parents want me to come home to see them, too. I love my family, but I love my new friends too. What should I do?

Why do your parents want you to come home? Because they miss you? Because they need you to help out? Or because it's just how it's always been? Talk to them about the possibility of you not spending Christmas with them. If it won't be too emotionally damaging to them, go ahead and spend the Holiday with your new family. But be sure to take some time out of your break to visit them, be it Christmas or another part of break, because family was designed by God, and is always important.

Here you need to ask yourself a few questions: who's more important? Who do you love more, God or your "friends"? You seem to have answered these first questions already. Next, Why are you keeping to the straight path? Many people do it for looks, or because their parents want them to, or because it simply makes them feel good about themselves. The reason to do anything is because it's what God wants and you want to please Him out of Love and Gratitude to Him. Lastly, you need to take a good, long look at yourself and ask if you are keeping a bit more of a "holier-than-thou" attitude. Do you tell your friends that you don't want to smoke because it's the wrong thing to do and you don't want to be a bad person? or because it's just not something that you want to do? Do you decline an invitation to a party by saying "No thanks, I don't want to hang around a bunch of sinners." or "No thanks, that's just not my thing."

I'll admit that some of my examples are a bit extreme, but check yourself. Might you ever give your friends the impression through your speech or body language that they are bad or wrong because of their lifestyles? Do you ever say anything to the effect of "I won't do that because it's wrong."? You probably need to thank your friends for bringing a possible attitude problem to your attention, and then "if-apologize". This means that you say something to the effect of "I'm sorry if I've done anything to offend you. It wasn't intentional." You are admitting that there has been a miscommunication, and that it was probably at least partly your fault. Then you need to keep checking yourself, and ask your friends to let you know if you present an attitude of "I'm better than you" again. Some people, as always, will think that you present that attitude every time you turn down an immoral offer, but true friends will understand that you want to keep yourself pure, and love you regardless of your choices.

Ouch! You've been through a whole lot here, haven't you? First you need to realise that you are not in the wrong, and that the loss of a child, born or unborn, will hurt. You will need to go through the greiving process as you would with the death of anyone close to you. You might want to secure the help of a professional christian counsellor, or have a few meetings with your minister.

Regarding your "reputation," who are you trying to impress? If your friends are true, you don't have to impress them, nor live up to their expectations. True friends will accept you for who you are, regardless of what the rest of the world thinks of you. They will at least try to understand, if not fully support your choices and decisions. If they won't try to understand that you're in pain, you should really wonder what kind of friends they are. What you need right now are friends who are willing to be real friends. You need someone to talk to, face to face, with whom you can share these emotions. Someone who will help you face your pain and work through it.

GoodyGoody, I'm all alone, and sometimes I wonder if it's all my fault. I have no boyfriend, and few girlfriends. With valentines coming, i'm really having a problem as most of my girlfriends are making plans, and I'm not. How can I have a happy valentines without a valentine?

Why all the pressure for Vday? It's just another day! If you're really looking for love, look to improve yourself, and those people who you deserve will be drawn to you naturally as you become the person that they are looking for.