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Thursday: Zoe met up with us after massage class. The teacher said we could bring people in to work on on the last night- so of course our first choice was Zoe. Brought them to my place- Zoe and I watched a movie while Remington FINALLY did his midterm- and guess what, I had to call Mom AGAIN. She was all worried AGAIN, and NOT pleased to find out who was in the room with me. Ugh.
Friday: Found out that we weren't visiting Zoe on the way down and back- apparently she was feeling like she'd seen him enough.
In the car he asked me if I'd still remember when I'm 80 that we're engaged). I said I would. Interesting that he'd bring that up...well, odd anyway. Asked if he'd actually marry me and he said he'd marry me to anyone I want, even him. Cute, real cute...
Ate at Harris Ranch, which I love, but the bar was NOISY. He started taking 10-minute naps- which, as you can imagine, I did NOT tell Mom about. He was so cute, hugging me or holding my hand while he slept. =) Very hard for me to stay awake to keep him awake. Finally had to read aloud to him. In all honesty I hate reading aloud (it fucks up my voice), but it makes him happy. Got there at 3 a.m. and passed out.
Saturday: Liked hanging out at Craig and Julia's- mostly played video games or did homework. Fell in love with Bust A Groove" and its music. The songs in it are so detailed/funny/personal/interesting. I've decided Bust A Groove is my new theme song, though I relate to Shorty's as well. Went out for Japanese with Craig, which was interesting. When Remington finally came home we went to a brewery place and I got carded for the first time in a restaurant. =) He said he missed me all day (aw). Then we rented Rush Hour.
Sunday: Went to Fashion Island- this very upscale shopping center. Only could afford books- shocked to find that a CD I wanted was $20! Went to Japanese again for dinner, then left. I fell asleep a lot more than he did this time- could not stay awake. He bought me a model of a VW Beetle =) Got in 3:30 a.m.
Monday: Six months ago we met!
Mom said (she made me call her again) that Dad was all pissed I hadn't called. So I had to call AGAIN, he only talked to me like this:
"Why didn't you call?"
"I was doing homework."
"Oh."
Geez, no point to that.
Demma sent me the few party pics she scanned, and I was having a bitch of a time putting them on Tripod, and I griped on IRC that I was almost considering putting them on my secret page. Remington has heard me say I have another page, and he knows I have a diary page. Yet he goes NUTS bugging me for the URL. I kept saying no, and guess what, he he found it. No, he didn't read it 'cause I said not to (I still think he'd hate me or at least be quite hurt if he read it, plus I've got Jess's journal to hide), but he's quite tempted. He suggested I put it on his work server and make it passworded, and he got the account up for one (haven't accessed it yet though). I'm now afraid to add anything new here...
Anyway, our anniversary dinner was lovely. =)
Susan Rankin was writing weird things on ucd.life that I won't get into (surprisingly quite protective of me, for someone who's never met me..huh)...but Zoe wrote a response to it that was just excellent. =)
"I don't think me or Jennifer are under any illusions as to who Remington is or isn't. I would not want him to break up with Jen, and she has convinced me that she wouldn't want him to break up with me. I think both of us have rather better relationships with Remington then we would if we were attempting monogamy with him (either of us). And we have each other's friendship and support.
It can be difficult to feel secure when everyone around you is saying that you must be less then valuable to your boyfriend if he loves someone else too. It gets really annoying. This whole culture is based on the idea that you can only really love one person at a time. So if they start loving someone else, that means that they are loving you less, and planning to leave you. But think of it this way; he must really love and enjoy his time with Jen if he is free to kiss others (without facing negative consequences), and still keeps choosing to spend so much time with her.
If Remington were to treat Jen badly in any way, he'd have ME to answer to (and he knows it). And she has me to talk to when she's unsure of things (and vice/versa).
(Susan) I feel responsible because I was under the impression that Remington was looking for a one true love and you seemed to be capable of such a relationship as well as being a sweet bright girl/young woman and so I encouraged you to date him.
Well, so he has two true loves, and all three of us are forced to communicate and self-examine and be careful about time and space much more then in a dyad. And I think thats good. As a matter of fact, I think thats why we've both been dating him for over six months now (a lot longer then many many monogamous relationships I know of) and show no signs of stopping.
(Susan) I am pissed that I misread him and his intentions to such an extent and I fear that you don't have the experience to know that any shortcoming in the relationship is HIS fault, not yours.
No, I really don't think so. She has me to tell her otherwise. :)
And I know you've never seen the three of us hanging out together, but if you ask someone who has, I think they are likely to tell you that the three of us (including-maybe especially-me and Jen) seem to enjoy each other's company immensely. I only hope that you have or will at some point experience that kind of warmth.
So put your mind at ease. Jennifer is being well taken care of-and taking good care of herself. :)"
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