Have moved into the new house. I ended up with the small room (well, I knew it was going to happen), and nearly freaked when I saw just how small it was, but with furniture in it, actually it's not bad. (shrug) Go figure. Though I miss having a big bed, and there definitely ain't room to put on in here.
To my surprise, Sarah and Jessica got Rem a house key as well as me. Which kinda weirds me out- he can get in here whenever he wants? Isn't that another thing like moving in together? He loved it though, said he felt loved. His mom called yesterday morning and he told her that, and she made some crack that we were making a big mistake, that we were going to be stuck with him all the time now. One, that isn't true (i.e. nights off/Zoe time/trips), 2. he's over most of the time anyway, and 3. what a mean thing for your mother to say! Bitchy!
We return to town, and you guessed it, night off comes back again. That's what I was dreading about coming home, that we'd have to fight about it again. At BM I just took off whenever I felt like during the day, but we generally hung around each other at night. Not a bad system, IMO, for the most part. But today he didn't even mention it to me until Bill asked him what he was doing tonight, and he said go to work. I asked what was up, and he said he was going to work tonight and then to Rumsey.
A-hem.
So I ended up in a bad mood again. Zoe is coming to Davis today, so that's out, and he'll probably want Friday off too (or Sunday, if not Friday)..bleech. I was quite clingy as he left yesterday. Literally. Embarrassing.
They are supposedly going to lunch together today after lab meeting (or so), then off to Rumsey for private time. Rem wants me to come along to this (which surprised me, he seems to be getting a bit inclusive lately), but I said unless she invited me, she doesn't want me along and wants him to herself. It's been a month since they last saw each other. Anyway, we were semi-arguing this on IRC last night, and I kinda suspect he wants to ask her if it'd be ok. Though that bugs me, as I think it's imposing too much. Plus I just found out I have to go get my perscription at 2 pm today, when she's calling him. Oh well...I really need to go look up the bus schedule so I can find a way home today.
And even if I did go, I'd have the usual dumpage feelings after they go off together...used to that though.
The conversation on IRC with Rem last night was weird.
Before BM, he was bitching about how I keep getting rides from him all the time. Exqueeze me? This from the guy who, when I said I'd take the bus/walk to work, begged me to have him pick me up. Which pissed me off...so fine, I plan to take the bus to work, and he decides he wants to drop off my stuff here before work, and wants to give me a ride again. Go figure. Apparently it's a me-not-driving thing (or at least that's how he made it sound), ridiculous. It somehow got into who he's spending holidays with, and I said this year she should get New Year's, since a. there was so much trouble about it last year, and b. with Y2K going on, I highly doubt my parents will let me out of the house, and Zoe can do whatever the hell she feels like. It sounds like Rem wants to have a Rumsey party for New Year's, but I definitely could never go to that. Plus I'd have to be home the next afternoon for family party shit. So he said ok, she gets New Year's and you get Christmas.
Which is when I was all "whoa, that ain't gonna happen." See, the side of the family I have to spend the winter holidays with are jerky. And at an early age I swore that no guy I loved should ever have to put up with them on Christmas when he didn't have to. (Even my mom agrees with this one) Unless I ever got engaged, at which case I'd be forced to. I said Zoe should be designated all holidays from Nov-Jan.
So I say this to him, and his response is "I may have to meet them sometime, you know."
Eek!
So trying to get him off this, I said that I suspect holidays like Christmas aren't intended to be spent with SO's anyway, and he said the scariest one: "No, Christmas is supposed to be when your family meets my family..." And after I really "eeeeeeeek!!!"d that one, he said "well, it has to happen before the wedding..." I said it could wait another 59 years, till everyone's dead.
What's with this family trip, anyway? He knows they're awful. It's not like he's being forced to be around them...and we aren't getting engaged for a more recent time than 2056...what is up with this?
It seems like I'm becoming "the favorite" compared to Zoe right now. He wanted me to come to Burning Man more than her, and he wants me to come along to lunch with them (he said that he selfishly wanted me there), and this eerie family crap like we're really engaged...I very slightly like it, but mostly it weirds me out. Either being equal (though that's pretty gone now) or being slightly favored works for me, but on the other hand, being "favorite" (not that he'd agree with this analysis, probably, and I may be wrong) seems like involvement pressure...
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