But right now, we are just getting started.
Question:
okay get ready to here this. i want my x-boyfriend back, the problem, is his mom, she thinks that I move to fast, that i am a hoe(because i have had sex alot with one person) and because i go to a junior college, and the fact that i broke up with him before because he was black, and my parents have raised me to never go out with them. but the fact is now my parents don't care. he said that he might give me another chance but we couldn't tell his mom. i love him, what do i do. thank you so, much.
Well, the first question that comes to my coffee addled mind is how does his mother know how much sex you've had?
You say that your parents used to have a problem with you seeing a man of a different race. Now they don't? Why the change? Are they all of a sudden no longer bigoted? If so, great for them! You give me lots of reasons for his mom not wanting you going out with their son, the one that she knows how your parents feel is a major one. I don't see that having been rectified yet. There is still a lot of resentment towards bi-racial relationships, especially in your neck of the woods. If you do decide to get back with him be prepared to face a lot of that, even from your parents. It won't be easy but when is love ever easy? If it is true love you feel for him then that can conquer anything.
But, after all that is said, I want you to keep something in mind: you will be hiding your relationship from the world, sneaking around. You will be forcing a son to lie to his mother, a mother, I might add, that to me is just looking out for the best interests of her son. Do you really want to come between a mother and her son? Remember that, because in reality that's what you will be doing. I'll say it again though, true love knows no boundaries. But, be sure you are getting back into this relationship for the right reasons (love) and not with some alternate rationale.
Recap time! Give your relationship another go, but be straight forward about it from the get go, lay out all of the cards and be sure that both of you know what, and why!, you're doing it. Either way....Good Luck!
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