Anthony Robbins: Hi, this is Tony. I'm sorry for the technical delays at AOL. They're having difficulty giving me your questions. So while we're waiting, let me just say thank you for taking. the time to visit with me. I'm looking forward to a time a few months from now when you'll be able to listen in with audio. It will sure be a heck of a lot faster!

AOLiveMC: What is Dreamlife.com?

Anthony Robbins: And more interesting, too. Dreamlife's focus is to provide for you the best tools available for improving your life. At this stage in our opening, it truly is at its most basic level. We are working now with those involved in artificial intelligence to be able to create a site in the future that will be able to individually coach you on getting results for your body, for your relationship, for your finances, and for your life. We're partnering with the Learning Annex, so in the coming months you'll be able to learn anything you would like live on line from topics as simple as did it change your life, learning another language to how to strip for your lover to financial training. It's a community. That will grow based on your interest. So please, be sure to register and give us your feedback about what you're most interested in and we'll do everything in our power to meet your needs. In any business, the most important thing that can allow you to move up is not only to produce results, but to brand yourself. We live in a world in which people are making decisions under a great deal of pressure, and they want certainty that the people they work with can produce the results. One of the experts that I recommend you look into is a gentleman who wrote a book called "the 22 Immuneable Laws of Marketing" the author's name is R. Reis. You can read the book in an hour. We're actually talking to him about putting a course together for us at Dreamlife. I think you'll find more value in his work than almost anything I've seen.

Question: How do I stop living in the past?

Anthony Robbins: The answer is to focus on the future and the present. You can't stop doing something without replacing it with people want to stop smoking. The smoking was providing something for you. It was a way to get you comfortable when you're stressed or to change your state when you were bored.So most people when they stop smoking start eating as a new way to have comfort. Similarly, if you're focused on your past, it's because it gives you something, comfort, or you remember a time in which you felt more proud of yourself, and it becomes a seduction. I remember reading in a book called " A Man's Search for Meaning" by victor frankel, the story of those people who died from a concentration camp versus those who managed to survive. Those who focused on the past were available to disassociate from the pain. But they had no reason to live. The only reason to continue to live is to try to achieve something in the future. The way to rebuild your life no matter how difficult it is to create a compelling future, to find a goal that grabs you. I truly believe there are no lazy people in the world. There are only those with impotent goals. Come up with something that excites you and you'll spend more time in the present and future than you do the past!

Question: Hi Mr. Robbins. Could you give me a suggestion on how to identify my most important goals in order to distinguish the important from the less important and how to take action in achieving significant successes in these areas?

Anthony Robbins: Thanks for your question. The way to discover what your most important goals are is to first get them all out of your head. The process I usually take people through, and there's actually a course in Dreamlife that will guide you through this, is to literally think of anything you would want to achieve, and then it's one to 20 years to truly dream. In fact, the reason we call it Dreamlife is because most people are not living the life they dreamed of. They're living the life they've settled for. The reason for this is they have not allowed themselves to be awakened by something that excites them at the deepest core of their being. So the first step is to dream without rules. Not to sit down and think what can I achieve, what's practical, what's pragmatic. It's to think with no limits, and to write for a minimum of 10 minutes everything you can think of emotionally, physically, financially, spiritually, what you would like to learn, what you would like to see, what you would like to do, what you would like to give, and then to go through and look at each of these items and say which of these would I achieve within one year, three years, five years, 10, or 20. Once you've selected the one-year goals, decide which of these would be your top four goals for the year, which one of these four would get you up early and keep you up late and excite you ability your life? about your life. Then to keep that energy alive, you can't just know what your goal is, you have to know why it's a must for you to achieve it. A must, not a should. Everyone in life has got a list: of shoulds, the things she should do, the things they would like to achieve.

Question: I am seeking financial guidance, I am 29 making 63K any book suggestions?

Anthony Robbins: But in truth, we all get or musts. Every one of us on line in this moment is earning what we must earn, not what we would like to earn. Every one of us on line at this moment is having as much happiness as we must have. Not as much as we would like to have. If you're in a relationship it's not because you must not be hurt, it's because you would like to have love. If you're in a relationship, you're going to get hurt! But if you must be in a relationship that's passionate, you will find one and you will create that. The way to turn shoulds into musts is to come up with enough reasons. Write a paragraph beneath each of your top one-year goals as to why you will achieve it no matter what. Reasons come first. Answers come second. When you get a big enough why, you can figure out how to do just about anything. Then you say what's one thing I can do right now towards this achievement. Maybe it's a class I can take, a conversation I can have. Maybe it's a meeting I can schedule with someone I can interview to tell us what to do next. What's the big thing to do. If I'm overweight, I'm going to go right now in my kitchen and throw away everything that's making me fat. Maybe not throw it in the trash, but flush it down the world while I play we are the champions of the world! Have fun and you won't have any difficulty in figuring out what's most important to you.

Question: Did you ever complete the est training and if you did what results did you get from it?

Anthony Robbins: Thanks for you question. No, I never attended EST. And in fact, in my early career, I was quite against it. I know it helped a lot of people, but the style in which people were treated was not a style that I personally supported. I felt that warner's approach of tearing people down and also approach of positioning himself as the "source" was too guru like for me. And yet as I matured, I know it helped a lot of people. I did meet account warner once early in my career. We were at the Four Seasons hotel, I sate Werner, I know you have helped millions of people and so do I. So we both know people are capable of making changes quickly, but I said, my approach is to make it fun. Why do you make it so hard? Why don't you make it fun? And I'll never forget the look on his face. He paused. He thought for a long time. He looked at me and he said honestly, I just never thought But I know many people that feel that they benefited immensely from his programs. It's unfortunate that things happen the way they are where he was forced to live outside the country and can't come back. I hope he benefited you.

Question: What is Tony's favorite motivational book? (other than one of his own). Thanks

Anthony Robbins: Honestly, I'm not into motivation, per se. Motivation to me is like a warm bath. I believe that what you really have to do is dive in and find what is your deepest inner drive. To do that, you have to be inspired more than by just the mere moment of what you hear, see, or read. You have to know what's most important to you in your life, what you value most. What drives you, are you mostly driven in life through the need to connect with other human beings? Are you mostly driven by the fueling of significance? Are you driven most if you're in control. Do you live for variety and surprise? Are you into growth? Are you into contribution? When you understand what drives you most, you can use it as a trigger to create lasting drive, not momentary motivation. But to answer your question, there are so many books that have fed my soul over the years. One of the simplest and most valuable is a book by James Allen. It was written more than 100 years ago. You can read it in 30 minutes. It will remind you that the ultimate power is in your own thoughts. Everything in your external life started in your internal mind. That we have the power to create. And as human beings are far much greater than circumstance. Honestly, I find the Bible to be an inspiration as well. Emerson's essays are invaluable. But I'm always stimulated and reading from a variety of disciplines. I'm reading books from history, then I read something on technology. Then I read something ongenetics because I'm also cross partying between them. A book that I recommend everyone read that will blow your mind is by an author that isle be interviewing for my power talk in a couple of days. It's called "the age of spiritual machines quosm" by ray kirkswell, a genius from MIT. You'll learn where the world isgoing and what technology is about to really create. It's mind boggling. Especially when you see how the merger of machines and the human mind can augment the quality of life that we experience beyond most people's wildest imagination. I'm hoping to have ray join us on Dreamlife for a deeper discussion. We're not receiving your questions again.

Question: How do you get un-stuck from a career that pays really well to going with your passion?

Anthony Robbins: So while we're waiting for AOL to catch up, let me just say one of the most important principles that has affected my life is the understanding that who you spend time is who you become ? with is who you become. As I said, if you want to get great at playing tennis, you don't play against someone at the same level as yourself or below. You find someone playing the game at a much higher level, and this makes your game have to move to a different level. It transforms you. Also, proximity is power. Whoever you're around is going to have an impact on you, but also whoever you're around will provide opportunity. In either opportunity to improve your life or the opportunity to lower the standard of your game. One of the biggest reasons I created Dreamlife was to provide an environment where people from all over the world could consistently meet, share ideas, learn, and challenge each other. While they were also surrounded by some of the best instructors and teachers and minds literally We're just beginning this journey together, and I'm so excited that many of you have decided to join us. I think we're going to find deep friendships along with our principles and skills that will create an opportunity to take our lives to the next level on an ongoing basis.

Question: Tony, I'm your age and I don't really have a lifelong profession chosen yet. How can I do this?

Anthony Robbins: I believe we have questions now. The easiest way to discover what profession you really want is to do some job shadowing. That is to find people that are involved in a profession that you might be -- "might" be interested in and to follow them around for a day. You can do that by discussing this with people that you know, with friends who know others, because when you actually observe a day in the life of an individual, you get a much better idea of the reality of that job than you'll ever get by reading some magazine or just having a discussion with someone. But the place to start for those who are unsure what they really want to do is do what I call the job from hell exercise. That is take five minutes, take out a piece of paper or go on line and write down everything you would hate in a job. What would be the job that you would absolutely want to avoid at all costs. What kind of person would you work for? be?

SCo596300: (6) Tony, I can't seem to stick with any type of weight loss plan for long. What do you advise

Anthony Robbins: Etc.? How much would you earn? What kinds of activities would you be involved with if you were going to be miserable. What would you earn if you're going to be miserable. The reason I say this is because people get really passionate about the things they hate! Pretty soon you'll find you have an immense amount of energy when you're doing this exercise. When you're all done and you've thought of everything you couldn't possibly stand in a job, write the opposite to everything you've written and you'll have the job from heaven. From there, you can begin to nail down careers that would meet these criteria, and you'll find that you'll do with a passionate energy that comes from converting the negative into the positive.

OnlineHost: It has been wonderful having you with us. Our time is running short so for one last question.

Question: Tony, what is the best response when you are around someone who continually likes to look at the downside of life? I am not sure how to respond in the most effective way.

Anthony Robbins: Go make it happen! Well, many people respond in a negative way because they get attention for it. They get people saying come on, be more positive, or don't be so negative. You've got to remember that adults are just big kids. If a kid does it to get -- doesn't get attention for doing something positive, they'll do something negative. The easiest way to deal with them is to do two things. Ignore them first and the moment they're slightly positive, acknowledge them. This is called shaping. We're always conditioning each other, training each other about how to behave. Whether it be a personal intimate relationship or be it on the job. Because all people will respond to re-enforcement. Any thought, any conversation, any emotion, any behavior that a human responsiveness will become a habit for that individual. So often times in a personal relationship, a man or a woman will want their spouse, boyfriend, girlfriend to call them. And they don't call at the time they want to. When they finally do call, they get mad at them. What the person learns is when I call, I'm going to get pain. So the next time they put off calling even more. And this begins to develop a negative habit in the relationship that often time cans slowly destroy something that has got a tremendous base of love. The more you can use humor also, and not take people seriously when they're negative, the easier it is for you to deal with it and the less re-enforcement they'll get. I know this is a very short chat, and I want to thank AOL for hosting it for us. I hope you'll stay in tune with the Dreamlife. I know we're going to be having John Gray on soon to talk about relationships. And I'm going to work to bring all of my best training associates—best training associates to constantly provide for you stimulating strategies, ideas, and opportunities. I'll say —I say to you again that Dreamlife is at its most basic stage in both its tempo of operation, and in its base of courses. But I wanted to get started so that we can begin to build our community. I would love to hear any of your feedback, any of your suggestions. And I look forward to serving you as a friend and coach in any way that I possibly can. Until our paths cross again, hopefully soon, I wish for all of you continued joy, happiness, success, and most importantly, fulfillment in all your endeavors. Don't settle for anything less than your dream life. Live with passion, love!

AOLiveMC: Thank you Anthony and have a great week ahead.