- Fellatio - The most generally-used term for the practice of sucking and exciting the penis with the mouth. Fellatio can be used in foreplay to excite your partner or as a different ways of making love in which case his ejaculation is usually taken in the mouth. Some women like to swallow semen, some do not. It is not obligatory and his ejaculation can equally well be used dramatically to spray over your breasts or elsewhere. Men attach value to their semen, so if you do take it in your mouth do not wish to swallow, dispose of it discreetly. (No harm can come from swallowing the semen of your long-term partner but remember that it carries the AIDS virus in infected people. Avoid all oral-genital contact if you are not sure.)
Fellatio is as old as the human race and is regularly depicted in the erotic art of all cultures. The later Indian love manuals give it particular attention, for example the Ratiratnapradipika: 'Her mouth quickens now upon the shaft; when you stir to her lips and tongue tip, she swallows it as deeply as she can and kisses when you cry out: this is Sangara, Swallowed Up'. Most lovers soon find their preferred method. As with all lovemaking, talk about it. And if he is shy ask him whether he would you to do anything differently. Remember that it is the tonguing and mouthing of the penis which is important and not suction - although sucking sounds are an aphrodisiac for many men. The majority of women keep their head relatively still and masturbate the shaft of the penis while sucking - some like to move their head up and down, but this becomes difficult for the quicker strokes as orgasm approaches. Newcomers should remember to keep their teeth well clear of the sensitive glans. Most uninhibited lovers enjoy oral sex, but there are no rules except to do what pleases you and your partner. Guilt has no place in bed. (See also: Gamahuche, Irrumatio, Jade Flute)
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