Codependency and Control

"I loved him. I thought he was a god."
Hedda Nussbaum (abused wife)
[For Hedda's story see page 3]

Those who cling to worthless idols
forfeit the grace that could be theirs.
Jonah 2:8

What's happening in these situations?

  • Jack uses verbal threats to make his wife and children "toe the mark."
  • Sue's supervisor threatens and manipulates to keep the employees under her thumb.
  • Pastor King uses threats and mind control to ensure that his church members "follow God."
  • The secret police in a certain country employ threats and false arrests to keep their citizens "in line."

Welcome to the Faustian Covenant Site

Some interesting items for you at this site

A short quiz to find out what characteristics of Control and/or Codependency you might have
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The Five Progressions of any cult group/environment:
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What happens when Control and Codependency are present in the home:
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How do you handle sexual abuse and harrassment in the workplace when Control and Codependency are present?
At Work
Are churches getting too Controlling?
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What happens in governments when Control and Codependency is present?
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Recommended Reading is on each page of the site.

The characteristics of Control and Codependency are the same:
  • In The Home
  • At the Workplace
  • In the Church
  • In Various Governments

God gave a covenant between himself and mankind.
God also gave covenants that operate between people.
When these covenants are broken, they become reversed,
and the situation becomes a type of .....

Faustian Covenant.
(Faust: A German magician and astrologer who sold his soul
to the devil in exchange for worldly experience and power.)


1. Keep the Person unaware of what is going on and the change taking place.
2. Control the person's time and, if possible, their physical environment.
3. Create a sense of powerlessness, covert fear, and dependency.
4. Suppress much of the person's old behavior and attitudes.
5. Instill new behavior and attitudes.
6. Put forth a closed system of logic; allow no real input or criticism.

From Cults in Our Midst by Margaret Thaler Singer

"I ask you be citizens, not spectators; citizens, not subjects."
from George W. Bush's Inauguration Speech
Jan. 20, 2001

A Key

Ask.Seek. Knock.
The Key out of dysfunctionalism is to keep on asking,
keep on seeking, and keep on knocking at the door for the answer.
Codependents are afraid to ask, seek and knock.
Controllers don't wish to.

Recommended Reading
The Betrayal Bond by Patrick J. Carnes, Phd.
The Pursuit of Attention: Power and Individualism in Everyday Life by Charles Derber
The New Thought Police by Tammy Bruce

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