Single.
The word congers up so many meanings. Webster's
Dictionary describes single as -being the only one;
unmarried; unique; solitary, for one person or thing.
To someone in a bad marriage the word would mean
peace. To another, being in an unhappy relationship,
single would be seen as freedom. But to men and women
everywhere that are not in a relationship it signifies
loneliness, a condition that needs to be rectified.
We live in a society that is quick to get out of
relationships, then just as quick to get back
in so the word "single" does not attach itself
to them for long. Being single is just too
embarrassing. You feel left out if you're single.
You can't; double date with your friends, go to
couple parties, entertain couples etc.
This creates the need for the hundreds of dating
services available, on and off line. A friend recently
convinced me to join an online dating forum. A quick
look around made me see how many men and
women are looking for the same thing - a soul
mate. Almost every ad mentions," looking for my
soul-mate". Most of the ads are so serious,
screaming in desperation- " I have tried every
where, please let me find you here!" The ads
list their wants like a shopping list that needs
to be met in a hurray- "attention shoppers ten
minutes until closing".
I decided on a different approach. I titled mine
"Auction! Model 8! Mint Condition!" I then went
on to list my "features and options" like I was
a rare car up for auction. Instead of "looking for"
I put "bidder's requirements". Do I expect to
meet my true love this way? No, but I have had
some interesting chats!
For me, being single is a good way to be right
now. I am happy and content. Being alone has
allowed me to get to know myself and make
changes that I feel are necessary for myself
and any future relationship. How can you be in
a relationship and not know who you are deeper
than- I like this, I like that? That's why so
many people "lose themselves" or "get taken
over" by their mates. When the relationship ends,
they are lost. That other person had literally
become their whole life.
If you are in a relationship right now, take the
time to get to know yourself independently of
your partner. Create separate interests, goals
and friends. When you are together, you will
bring more to the table. If the relationship ends,
you will not be as devastated.
You will always have you.
If you are single right now, spend time with
yourself, your thoughts. By making yourself
busy every minute of the day you are only
avoiding yourself. Make the time to spend
with you.
By asking and finding out who you are, your
life will be full no matter what you do or who
you do it with. Your burning need to "find
someone" will be lessened because you
will be self-satisfied.
You will become your own soul mate. You will
change your search to "looking for a companion
soul-mate".
Friendship and dating online
- Personals' Ads- Friend or Foe?
Ask someone what they think about using a 'personals' ad and you are likely to get into as big a discussion as religion or politics
- 25 Words or Less: Connecting With Personal Ads
If you decide to try the personal ads, here are my suggestions in 25 words or less:
- In Search Of A Good Man
There are good men everywhere. Your task must be to find a man with a proper mixture of good external and internal virtues
- Finding The Right Woman
What is the need that you are trying to fulfill by seeking a new love? If you have a vague answer, you are courting disaster!
- Where, Oh Where, Is My Soul Mate?
The deep yearning each of us has to connect with the ideal partner is surely an important aspect of the human condition
- 10 Powerful Reasons To Start A Mass Dating Campaign
Perhaps you have thrown yourself into the dating world more than once, looking for that Mr. or Ms. Right, only to come up empty handed and disappointed.
- The Most Important Gift A Guy Can Give A Girl
I've talked to hundreds of women about this and they all agreed that the very best gift a guy could give them is
- Body Language
Body gestures and movements always have to be viewed in groups, and placed in context... to be of any use at all.
- Before You Seek Mr. or Ms. Right...
Are you a single adult seeking a committed relationship? If so, there are some important areas that you need to consciously examine before you search for Mr. or Ms. Right....
- Pondering The Perplexing Paradox Of People
Meeting people seems like the easiest yet oftentimes most elusive event considering how many people we run into on a daily basis.
- Dating Tips
Having been on the dating scene for the last four years, I've learned a few things I'd like to pass on to you Guys
- MORE Tips For Single Guys
Dating Tips Continued
- Are You Nervous?
So the question very frequently pops up, How can I relax when I'm around women that I'm attracted to?
