Slave Failure and subbies

Along with this tradition of waiting for slaves to beg for a Master, is what I believe to be the most dangerous of behaviours from this group. They have stated that a slave has only one choice once she has begged a collar, and that choice is to fail. If she ever *once* fails, then she is of no further use to the Gorean community. She is cast aside, and no Gorean man will ever want her or commune with her again. There is a term, *subbie* that is used to describe such girls, and the stigma of being called a subbie is such that I have heard of suicide attempts because of it. Such are the mind games that these men play.

A girl can be labelled a subbie, not only because she chooses not to obey a direct order, but also if she speaks or behaves in a way that is not pleasing. And believe me, they’re such a contrary silly lot, inadvertently offending them is easily done. A girl is often told to think long and hard before she begs a collar, for if she chooses to fail and is subsequently released, then all that is left to her is the stigma of failure. However, a girl who does not have a Master is at the mercy of all Free People. She is liable to be ordered to do different things by different Masters. If she does not, then she has failed. There are also some girls who are in committed Master/slave relationships, who have never broken the rules that would get them labelled a subbie, i.e. disobeyed their Master. However, they will be publicly labelled a subbie anyway, because her Master has had some argument with one of the leaders.

Only Goreans have slave girls, the rest of us have subbies. Only Gorean men are Masters, the rest of us are Doms. A slave must not ever judge Free People, she must never disobey. They will frequently quote that a slave always has the last word in any discussion with a Free Person, and those words will be “Yes Master/Mistress.” The dangers of this are evident. There are predators who have come to know that in Gorean channels there are girls who always, always obey. Most people recognise that such behaviour is dangerous, and will inform a girl all she is required to do is serve in the tavern. However, as each group of Goreans is frequently trying to outdo the other, by being the real Gor, not the watered down, kinder, gentler Gor, there have been some leaders of these communities who insist that a slave must obey always, always. And girls terrified of being called a subbie, have ended up in very serious danger.