There
is a powerful craving in most of us to see ourselves as instruments
in the hands of others and, thus, free ourselves from responsibility
for acts which ate prompted by our own questionable inclinations
and impulses. Both the strong and the weak grasp at this alibi.
The latter hide their malevolence under the virtue of obedience.
The strong, too, claim absolution by proclaiming themselves the
chosen instruments of a higher power - God, history, fate, nation
or humanity.
Similarly,
we have more faith in what we imitate than in what we originate.
We cannot derive a sense of absolute certitude from anything which
has its roots in us. The most poignant sense of insecurity comes
from standing alone and we ate not alone when we imitate. It is
thus with most of us; we ate what other people say we ate. We know
ourselves chiefly by hearsay.
To
become different from what we are, we must have some awareness of
what we are. Whether this being different results in dissimulation
or a real change of heart, it cannot be realized without self-awareness.
Yet, it is remarkable that the very people who are most self-dissatisfied,
who crave most for a new identity, have the least self-awareness.
They have turned away from an unwanted self and, hence, never had
a good look at it. The result is that most dissatisfied people can
neither dissimulate nor attain a real change of heart. They are
transparent and their unwanted qualities persist through all attempts
at self-dramatization and self-transformation. It is the lack of
self-awareness which renders us transparent. The soul that knows
itself is opaque.
Fear
comes from uncertainty. When we ate absolutely certain, whether
of our worth or our worthlessness, we ate almost impervious to fear.
Thus, a feeling of utter unworthiness can be a source of courage.
Everything seems possible when we are absolutely helpless or absolutely
powerful -- and both states stimulate our gullibility.
Pride
is a sense of worth derived from something that is not organically
part of us, while self-esteem is derived from the potentialities
and achievements of self. We are proud when we identify ourselves
with an imaginary self, a leader, a holy cause, a collective body
or possessions. There is fear and intolerance in pride; it is sensitive
and uncompromising. The less promise and potentiality in the self,
the more imperative is the need for pride. The core of pride is
self-rejection. It is true, however, that when pride releases energies
and serves as a spur to achievement, it can lead to a reconciliation
with the self and the attainment of genuine self-esteem.
Secretiveness
can be a source of pride. It is a paradox that secretiveness plays
the same role as boasting - both ate engaged in the creation of
a disguise. Boasting tries to create an imaginary self, while secretiveness
gives us the exhilarating feeling of being princes disguised in
meekness. Of the two, secretiveness is the more difficult and effective.
For the self-observant, boasting breeds self-contempt. Yet, it is
as Spinoza said: "Men govern nothing with more difficulty than their
tongues, and they can moderate their desires more than their words."
Humility, however, is not verbal renunciation of pride but the substitution
of pride for self-awareness and objectivity. Forced humility is
false pride.
A
fateful process is set in motion when the individual is released
"to the freedom of his own impotence" and left to justify his existence
by his own efforts. The individual on his own, striving to realize
himself and prove his worth, has created all that is great in literature,
art, music, science and technology. This autonomous individual,
also, when he can neither realize himself nor justify his existence
by his own efforts, is a breeding ground of frustration and the
seed of the convulsion that shakes our world to its foundations.
The
autonomous individual is stable only so long as he is possessed
of self-esteem. The maintenance of self-esteem is a continuous task
which taxes all of the individual's power and inner resources. We
have to prove our worth and justify our existence anew each day.
When, for whatever reason, self-esteem is unattainable, the autonomous
individual becomes a highly explosive entity. He turns away from
an unpromising self and plunges into the pursuit of pride, the explosive
substitute for self-esteem. All social disturbances and upheavals
have their roots in crises of individual self-esteem, and the great
endeavor in which the masses most readily unite is basically a search
for pride.
So,
we acquire a sense of worth either by realizing our talents, or
by keeping busy or by identifying ourselves with something apart
from us -- be it a cause, a leader, a group, possessions or whatnot.
The path of self-realization is the most difficult. It is taken
only when other avenues to a sense of worth are more or less blocked.
Men of talent have to be encouraged and loaded to engage in creative
work. Their groans and laments echo through the ages.
Action
is a high road to self-confidence and esteem. Where it is open,
all energies flow toward it. It comes readily to most people and
its rewards ate tangible. The cultivation of the spirit is elusive
and difficult and the tendency toward it is rarely spontaneous,
whereas, the opportunities for action ate many.
The
propensity to action is symptomatic of an inner unbalance. To be
balanced is to be more or less at rest. Action is at the bottom
-- a swinging and flailing of the arms to regain one's balance and
keep afloat. And if it is true, as Napoleon wrote to Catnot, "The
art of government is not to let men grow stale," then, it is an
art of unbalancing. The crucial difference between a totalitarian
regime and a free social order is, perhaps, in the methods of unbalancing
by which their people ate kept active and striving.
We
are told that talent creates its own opportunities. Yet, it sometimes
seems that intense desire creates not only its own opportunities,
but its own talents as well.
The
times of drastic change ate times of passions. We can never be fit
and ready for that which is wholly new. We have to adjust ourselves
and every radical adjustment is a crisis in self-esteem: we undergo
a test; we have to prove ourselves. A population subjected to drastic
change is, thus, a population of misfits, and misfits live and breathe
in an atmosphere of passion.
That
we pursue something passionately does not always mean that we really
want it or have a special aptitude for it. Often, the thing we pursue
most passionately is but a substitute for the one thing we really
want and cannot have. It is usually safe to predict that the fulfillment
of an excessively cherished desire is not likely to still our nagging
anxiety. In every passionate pursuit, the pursuit counts more than
the object pursued.
Our
sense of power is more vivid when we break a man's spirit than when
we win his heart, for we can win a man's heart one day and lose
it the next. But when we break a proud spirit, we achieve something
that is final and absolute.
It
is compassion rather than the principle of justice which can guard
us against being unjust to our fellow men.
It
is doubtful whether there is such a thing as impulsive or natural
tolerance. Tolerance requires an effort of thought and self-control.
Acts of kindness, too, ate rarely without deliberation and "'thoughtfulness."
Thus, it seems that some artificiality, some posing and pretense,
is inseparable from any act or attitude which involves a limitation
of our appetites and selfishness. We ought to beware of people who
do not think it necessary to pretend that they are good and decent.
Lack of hypocrisy in such things hints at a capacity for a more
depraved ruthlessness. Pretense is often an indispensable step in
the attainment of genuineness. It is a form into which genuine inclinations
flow and solidify.
The
control of our being is not unlike the combination of a safe. One
turn of the knob rarely unlocks the safe; each advance and retreat
is a step toward one's final achievement. Jeet Kune Do is not to
hurt, but is one of the avenues through which life opens its secrets
to us. We can see through others only when we can see through ourselves
and Jeet Kune Do is a step toward knowing oneself.
Self-knowledge
is the basis of Jeet Kune Do because it is effective, not only for
the individual's martial art, but also for his life as a human being.
Learning
Jeet Kune Do is not a matter seeking knowledge or accumulating stylized
pattern, but is discovering the cause of ignorance.
If
people say Jeet Kune Do is different from "this" or from "that,"
then let the name of Jeet Kune Do be wiped out, for that is what
it is, just a name. Please don't fuss over it.
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