"You can be anybody
that you want to be
You can love whomever you will
You can travel any country
where your heart leads
And know I will love you still
You can live by yourself
You can gather friends around
You can choose one special one
And the only measure
of your words and your deeds
Will be the love you leave behind
when you're gone."
-Fred Small
Well, hmmm, I'm not sure what to day here that haven't said in other areas in my homepage, but I'll try :)) I think relationships can be fun, and a lot of work, nut a couple should not face prejudice because of who they are seeing, whether it is a same-sex couple, an interracial couple, or both.
I have faced prejudice because many of my friends are non-white, and because I have dated interracially as well. It gets garder since I am also gay, so when I go to gay-friendly places with a date who is non-white, I sometimes find myself noticing the subtle prejudices that exists against people of color, those involved in interracial relationships, and gay couples.
I have dated some, and have been in some bad relationships. I have been used, stolen from, and cheated on by one guy who had me believing that he cared for me. I sometimes wish that I hadn't had those experiences, but I have learned a lot from them. I now know the signs and can avoid them, so for that I am thankful. I also have dated someone who has a more dominant personality, and someone who has a more submissive personality, and neither of which I like. There were other times where I remained friends with the person whom I dated, and I enjoy that because sometimes the friendships are deeper......
I have had to overcome a lot of guilt in loving a person of the same sex as myself, and it's worse when the relationship was bad. I felt that it was my fault that it failed, that I didn't try hard enough, or that all relationships are doomed to fail, which is not true, since I know some gay couples who have been in monogomous relationships for over ten years (longer than my parents were married to each other), and the same with heterosexual couples. Some just work out better than others. I guess it's based on maturity and what's going on at that time in both people's lives......
In my opinion, same-sex couples have a harder time of things because of things because their relationships are not legally recognized, and their are many myths about gay relationships as well. People tend to judge what they don't understand, and form opinions thereof, whether those opinions are right or wrong. Same sex couples are becoming more accepted, but there still is a lot of prejudice and discrimination towards them.....
Below are some links concerning gay issues, as well as others. If you know of more, please tell me.....
Links to other sites on the Web
Partners Task Force for Gay and Lesbian Partners
Absolutely Gay! The Couples' Guide
Relationship LLC
Lesbian and Gay Marriage Through History and Culture
Gay Marriage: The Arguments and Motives
Legal Recognition and Protection of Gay Relationships
Abuse in Relationships
Interracial Dating, Couples, and Families
Being gay and Coming Out
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