.: Honouring the Yoni

These honouring exercises are used to show respect and honour to your partner and their genitals. In Tantra Lingam is the penis and Yoni is the vagina. These exercises can build respect and trust within your relationship.

The word yoni is the Sanskrit word for the 'female reproductive organ'

.: Honouring yoni technique

• Find a nice comfortable area, on the bed or build up cushions to lean up against. With her legs wide open so her partner can kneel between her legs
• In Tantra a gift can be given to show honour. You can present a simple gift to the Yoni, like a flower, a petal or you may wish to plan ahead and buy something the Yoni may enjoy like a love egg or beads. Kneeling in front of your partner to view her Yoni is another form of honour.
• This exercise is not just about looking at the Yoni but appreciating and communicating this with your partner. Tell you partner what you like about it. If you think she may need to trim her pubic hair now is not the time to discuss. Concentrate on the positives and appreciate how it is now. This exercise may open you both up to discuss pubic hair trimming later.
• For some women they may feel uncomfortable with you looking. Even during oral sex you generally are not looking directly at the genitals. If you feel uncomfortable tell him and he will reassure you with his true admiration of the Yoni.
• You may want to spend 5 - 10 minutes, or longer if you feel comfortable, enjoying the sensation of sight. You can then move to the next sensation of touch.
• Use a very gentle touch but firm enough to feel the different textures and folds of skin.
• Play with her public hair. Running your fingers through the hair or twisting the hair around the index finger gently.
• Feel the outer lips (Labia majora). Hold them between your fingers gently. Feel her inner lips (Labia minora). Feel her clitoris but do not play to arouse her. Explore the vagina entrance but do not penetrate with your finger. Explore the perineum, between the bottom of the vagina and the anus. Gently touch her anus if she feels comfortable with this.
• You can then try a different touch sensation by using your lingam. Lay the lingam on her Yoni trying not to put too much pressure. You can gently rub the head of the penis over all the areas of the vagina.
• When ready you can insert your lingam in the Yoni slowly. Do not thrust. Rest the penis deep inside her and feel the warmth and texture of the moistness.
• When she is ready you can end the exercise anyway you wish.

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