prelude to marriage: the period of a romantic relationship before marriage
It is far better to let God lead you to the mate that he has released for you to marry or to get engaged to. God knows everyone far better than you can ever think.
It may take time to seek the Lord for his answer but if you are persistent, you will receive what you desire to know. Spending in fasting and prayer is one of the way to earnestly seeking God to understand his will. The Holy Spirit will lead us into all truth. If you need to learn to hear his voice, please take our online course.
Being engaged is a vow to marry. So, this is not to be entered lightly.
"Better is it that thou shoudest not vow, than that thou shoudest vow and not pay." Ecclesiastes 5:5
It would be very wise to know the person that you are going to be engaged to, that they love you and that the love is real.
Being impatient to get into the married life may be a sign of something to be aware of.
This is the stage after you have decided to get married. After accepting an engagement you can continue to strengthen the relationship. It would be good if you have gotten to know each other very well.
It is recommended to take about one year before the marriage ceremony.
It is recommended that your Pastor should be involved in this process; they may help you with counseling and with any other areas that you may need help.
It is not recommended to have sex before marriage. You need to get to know your mate without the complications of sex, plus the penalty of sin may fall into the your life.
You should know assuredly that the person loves you deeply.
If both of you have argued with each other, more than eight times, please reconsider getting engage to this person. A relationship is about happiness, togetherness, cooperation and commitment. So, if the two of you are not “agreeing”, this is a big indicator, that something is wrong. Anger is a “red flag” to warn the couple that this relationship may need more or it is not be for you or “this one need too much work, to get it into a healthy state” [too far gone]. People come with their own problems, be wise before you get caught up into something that is not for you. Why play “fix it,” there are many wonderful people who you two can get along peacefully without all the extra “drama.”
A thorough look at the entire person would be well advised. Where they are from, where they ever arrested, are they good to their parents, is there insanity or depression in their family, is this person addicted to looking at adult magazine, picture or videos, have this person ever raped someone, or they a pedophile.
Many individuals enter into relationship with baggage whether mentally, physically or spiritually. Make sure all the baggage are dealt with before you marry that individual. Taking a look at their complete history, this may include hereditary diseases or curses that may affect them mentally, physically or spiritually. If you are going to be with the person for the rest of your life, you will need to know in depth, details about this person before considering marriage.
Remember that after the ceremony you will start the marriage.
"Every purpose is established by counsel and with good advice make war." Proverbs 20:18
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