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The G Spot....with guidance notes for men
Ok, I admit it my pages once again have resorted to issues of sex and sexuality and the male and female perspectives, but let's be honest it is an interesting area of discussion and if I can add a new spin to an old debate, why the hell not????
The back Catalogue: Previous discussions include:
First a quote from Nick Hornby's book, "High Fidelity":
"Read any woman's magazine and you'll see the same complaint over and over again: men-those boys ten or twenty years on or thirty years on-are hopeless in bed. They are not interested in "foreplay"; they have no desire to stimulate the erogenous zones of the opposite sex; they are selfish, greedy, clumsy, unsophisticated. These complaints you can't help feeling are kind of ironic. Back then all we wanted was foreplay, and girls weren't interested. They didn't want to be touched, caressed, stimulated, aroused and in fact used to thump us if we tried. Its not surprising, then, that we are not much good at all. We spent two or three long and extremely formative years being told very forcibly not even to think about it. Between the ages of fourteen and twenty-four, foreplay changes from being somethingthat boys want to do and girls don't, to something that women want and men can't be bothered with. The perfect match if you ask me, is between the Cosmo woman and the fourteen-year old boy"
This succinctly sums up the modern mans dilemma. For whatever reasons most men are horrified at the thought that they may be pretty shambolic in the bedroom, to many guys the erogenous zone may as well be a small island in the South Pacific (they have about as much chance of finding it, even if you give them directions!), they boast to their friends of their sexual exploits but let's be honest if you really want to know how you perform you need to place a bug in the girls powder room, or ply her best friend with drink and interrogate her. The measure of a man is not the size of your penis, it's the ability to fully satisfy your partner, the two are mutually exclusive.
Men probably need to go back to basics, asking questions of what stimulates their partner both physically and emotionally. I can almost see guys gasping with horror, the thought of getting in touch with their feminine side is akin to becoming a fully paid up member of the "Village People fan club". Sexual satisfaction is not always a case of penetration and orgasm (their orgasm!), there is much more to it than that. Good sex over a period of time cannot survive on the physical aspect alone, married couples and those in long term relationships either develop their emotional bonds or they grow complacent and the relationship becomes sterile.
Womens fantasies are not the same as mens, ok she can dress up as a naughty nurse, a nymphomaniac schoolgirl to please a guy, she may even have an identical twin or a good looking mother or older aunt, you may even have willing best friends (but, just hope that he is equally clueless or you may find that three is comany and you are Mr Gooseberry, now wouldn't that make you feel good, at worst you both may find yourselves on the subs bench... face facts, sex without penetration is a reality)......there will come a time when a woman needs more....look at it like an iceberg, all you see is the top 25% the rest and most important element cannot be seen, it needs to be explored to be understood, there is an old chinese proverb that comes to mind,
"The strength of a tree is not in it's branches (which may be plentiful) but in it's roots"
In 1980, two sex researchers (Perry and Whipple) stood and spoke to a meeting of the Society for the Scientific Study of Sex (SSSS) in Dallas and told the audience something they could scarcely believe.
"There is a spot inside the vagina that is extremely sensitive to deep pressure. It is felt through the anterior or front wall of the vagina about five centimetres from the entrance. The spot is called the G spot or Grafenberg spot after the first modern physician to describe it. When properly stimulated, the G spot swells and leads to orgasm in many women. It is probable that every woman has a G spot". The researchers found one in every woman they examined. "It is the homologue of the male prostate," they said. At the moment of orgasm, many women ejaculate a liquid through the urethra that is chemically similar to male ejaculate but contains no sperm.As a result of stimulation of the G spot, women often have a series of orgasms. For many women, it is difficult to properly stimulate the G spot in the missionary position. Other positions such as the one with the woman sitting astride on top or the one with male entry into the vagina from the rear ("doggie style") work better. There are three main types of orgasm in women :
Many of the audience were sceptical. This was something that went against everything they knew or, indeed, had experienced themselves. In the previous two decades of sex research, Masters and Johnson had held full sway. After closely observing the experiments, which they filmed, and questioning the subjects, they declared that the so-called vaginal orgasm was a myth.
"The clitoris is the only source of orgasm in the female," they said, adding that stimulation of the skin, breast, nipples, ear-lobes, and mouth increased sexual response.
At the end of the 1980 conference, gynaecologist Dr Martin Weisberg of Thomas Jefferson University Hospital in Philadelphia said the new information was "bull." Afterwards, Perry and Whipple produced a woman whose vagina was being stimulated manually by her partner so that Weisberg could examine her stimulated G spot. He changed his mind.
Men, before you read this please check with your partner that you have passed the proficiency test and attained enough credits to proceed. You may need to attend a foundation course before you move on to more advanced techniques.
Those women whose G spots are highly sensitised in the vagina experience not only multi-orgasms in the vagina with ejaculations some or most of the time but also clitoral orgasms. The orgasms from clitoral stimulation are well-known and familiar to most women; the vaginal orgasm is deeper and may be more satisfying and emotional.
Women who experience vaginal orgasms, especially those who also ejaculate, usually have very healthy libidos. One 50-year-old woman, a regular ejaculator, says she never refuses her partner sex at any time because: "I may not be asked next time." Such a woman not only enjoys her sex: she needs it often.
How does a woman develop her G spot? There are several ways. If she spends her entire sex life on her back in the missionary position (man on top, facing each other), the G spot will most likely not be stimulated and could remain unnoticed in the wall of the vagina. On the other hand, if another position is used regularly, for example, if the penis enters the vagina from the rear, the penis will most likely bump firmly against the G spot and sensitise it. It can however take some time before the G spot is sufficiently sensitised by this position in intercourse alone. This is why a woman should stimulate herself with a vibrator or her fingers if she wants to develop a awareness of her G spot quickly.
A woman cannot easily find the spot when lying on her back, since gravity tends to pull the internal organs down and away from the opening of the vagina; and neither fingers nor penis will normally find it. It is much better to use the squatting or sitting position. And because the first sensation she feels when touching the G spot feels like an urgent need to urinate, it's best if she experiments while sitting on the toilet. She should urinate before attempting to find the spot: with an empty bladder, she can ignore the urge to urinate, an urge that disappears in a short while, anyway.
Using her fingers, she should explore the anterior (inside front) wall of the vagina using a firm upward pressure. She might also use firm pressure from outside at the same time with the other hand on the abdomen just above the public bone. As she finds and stimulates the G spot and it begins to swell, she will feel it as a small lump which will give her a distinct feeling. Some women have larger spots (up to the size of a walnut), just as some have larger breasts and some men have larger penises. But size doesn't count: the sensation is the same regardless of its size. However, just as some women receive more pleasure from stimulation of their breasts than others, some find G spot stimulation more pleasurable than others.
She will want to apply firmer pressure on the G spot than she would on the clitoris if she were stimulating that organ. As she continues stimulation inside the vagina, which should feel slightly to moderately pleasurable, she might feel twinges or contractions in her uterus. When the urge to urinate leaves, she may wish to retire to a more comfortable position such as her bed. "Take a towel if you are still worried about urinating. Continue stimulating the spot while kneeling or sitting on your feet with knees apart," said Ladas, Whipple and Perry.
They added: "If you experience an orgasm, you may notice that it differs from the one you have experienced from clitoral stimulation. Some women will ejaculate a clear fluid at the moment of the orgasm, and some may feel a need to urinate just before it happens. If you do ejaculate, you will notice that the fluid is much clearer and whiter than urine and does not smell like it." The fluid is as copious as a man's ejaculate, colourless, almost odourless, and certainly enough to wet the bed.
A man can play an important role in supporting and initiating female G spot orgasms and ejaculation by inserting his fingers, perhaps the index and middle or two middle fingers, into his partner's vagina and stroking the anterior (inside front) wall with a "come here" motion. Well-trimmed fingernails can be a good idea; reasonably strong pressure is indicated. A stimulated G spot will feel spongy and different from the rest of the vagina. Stroking the G spot firmly in this way can bring on a relatively quick orgasm or several of them. The area becomes hard and firm like an erect penis as it swells, sometimes to the size of a walnut. It can be felt between both sets of fingers, the man's stimulating through the anterior vaginal wall and the woman's pressing down on her abdomen above the pubic hair line.
Whereas a woman can initiate the inside stimulation, it is easier for a partner to stimulate her than for her to do it herself.
"The G spot does not lie on the vaginal wall itself, but it can be felt through it," says Beverly Whipple in her paper How to Find the Grafenberg Spot. It is usually felt about half-way between the back of the pubic bone and the cervix and feels like a small lump that swells as it is stimulated. When it is first touched, many women reply that it feels like they have a need to urinate, even if the bladder has just been emptied. However, within two to ten seconds of massage, the initial reaction is replaced in some women by a strong and distinctive feeling of sexual pleasure. Some women report an orgasm from stimulation of this area and some also report an explosion of fluid from the urethra when they experience this type of orgasm. The fluid expelled looks like 'water-down fat-free milk.'
"Women have reported that they have difficulty locating and stimulating the G spot by themselves (except with a dildo, a G spot vibrator, or similar device) but they have no difficulty in identifying the erotic sensation when the area is stimulated by a partner. The problem with trying to locate the Grafenberg spot by the woman is that she needs very long fingers and/or a short vagina to reach the area while lying on her back."
Rob (The Aussie) asked?
Rob, as a typical aussie bloke, had a quick look at your page and asked in a typical aussie bloke manner, is there anything in there about "girls that spurt" hahahahaha. Rob don't run before you can walk, may I refer you here first...Site 1. Equally maybe you should check out this site Site 2.
If you are really out of your depth, then there is only one place guaranteed to put a smile on your face ;-) Site 3.
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