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"surrender."
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Anyone can "bottom," that is, play a sexually
submissive role during a scene. Visit your local kink club and you'll see
a plethora of vanilla kinksters lined up to have their backsides flogged
by some dominant they've never even met. And the manners and acceptable
behaviors for submissives are a relatively simple matter of training.
But neither of these imply in any way that the submissive has truly surrendered
personal power of any significance.
A sub may kneel to greet the dominant as instructed,
all the while harboring within an unspoken resentment or even worse, ulterior
motives. The line of reasoning goes something like this: "If I do
what I'm supposed to do, I will get what I want. So I'll kneel and
call him 'Sir,' because I know that if I do, he will [insert your
favorite erotic activity here]." It is little more than naked manipulation
and self-centeredness. This type of behavior is especially noticeable
online in the so-called D/s and BDSM channels: Submissives intentionally
misbehaving and lavishly describing their supposed acts of submission,
emphasizing just how far apart their thighs are spread, in order to attract
attention. A common enough phenomenon, but in a R/T, 24x7 D/s relationship,
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