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-Billy Bragg
A lot of people - men and women want to know what it's like being a BBW. A lot of BBW want to hear stories that are similar to theirs. I do not mind educating anyone. I know the people who aren't big and beautiful want to know out of curiosity or to better understand us. Other BBW want to hear the story of others because it gives them a sense of community. All of these situations are fine. As BBP (BIG BEAUTIFUL PEOPLE!) having a place to go on the 'net that makes us feel welcome can really help us realize that we aren't alone! You can read my story on this page and peruse some essays I've written about being a BBW like the ones listed below!
Are you a BBW? Feeling down? (Don't we all at times!) Click here!
Self Esteem & The BBW - Learning to Love Yourself! To find out how click here!
Affirmations for Big Beautiful Women & Big Handsome Men: Learn how to transform your thoughts about your body image and life. Check it out here!
Here are some great BBW and FA LINKS!
I haven't always been a BBW. As a matter of fact all through college I was about 135-140 pounds. I put on a lot of weight due to depression and lack of physical activity. I often ate just to feel loved or because of boredom. It's easy to find solace in food when you are being hurt by someone you love.
At first I really hated how I looked. I was so used to the thinner me that I hated the extra weright I put on and I would often cry all night because I was fat. Well, after looking back at the situation I can see that not only did I hate the way I looked, I hated MYSELF! I was in an abusive relationship and that person was always remarking about how fat I was and even before I put on the weight how ugly/unworthy I was. It took me a long time to realize that I'm the same person I was before I put on weight. I was so sure that I would spend a life time alone after I finally left that horrible relationship…of course anything was better than being in an abusive situation. It also took me a while to learn that I am worthy of love and respect just like anyone else.
For the most part I've gotten over these things, but there are bad times. I have a wide range of friends of all backgrounds, colors, religions and sizes so I realize that other women worry about how they look and feel - not only BBWs. Society sends so many mixed signals to women about how they should look and act and that disgusts me! The world is full of pressures for women, and especially young women.
One of the turning points came when I discovered the internet and saw that there are other fantastic BBWs out there who are beautiful and supportive. That, coupled with the fact that I married an incredible man who loves me the way I am, really helps me realize that I should be proud of who I am!
I want people to know that even though I am large I still enjoy a very active life. I hike, go white water rafting, travel a lot and enjoy as much of the outdoors as I can. I don't sit at home eating and watching television.
I am trying to lose a few pounds because of health problems I am having, but I like the way I look carrying around some extra weight so I will more than likely not allow my weight to slip below 165. (Still large by today's standards - it makes me angry!)
I think that with the help of the Internet and organizations for people of size we will get through this together . It will allow us to enjoy life to the fullest and some day I hope that we won't have to worry about what we look like and how people will react. It's a lofty aspiration, I know, but we can always hope can't we?
If you have any suggestions, email me. If you want your site linked to mine, let me know. If you have any suggestions or comments please sign my guestbook - I want to hear from YOU!
