| Hello dear friend. If you are here, chances are you are a grieving Mom, or you know someone who is.
A grieving mother is like no one else. We are set apart, all of us members of a sisterhood that we want no part of.
No one... not your friends, not your family, not even your husband understands what you really go through each day. It's nearly impossible to even put it into words.
A grieving mother is an ocean of secret heartaches. A grieving mother wears a smile for the world, even as her heart is breaking. We are given smalltalk when what we really need is a hug. We are told how strong we are, when what we really want to do is scream. We hide our pain for the sake of others.
The poem below is one I wrote on a day that I'd been speaking with a very dear friend, and I wanted so much for her to let me say the things that were pressing on my heart. No matter how I approached it, she would change the subject. Read on dear sister, because I know you have been there.....
|What a Grieving Mother Really Thinks|
|Hello old friend,
Oh yes you know
I lost my child a while ago.
No, no please
Donít look away
And change the subject
You see at first I couldnít feel,
It took so long, but now itís real.
I hurt so much inside you see
I need to talk,
Come sit with me?
You see, I was numb for so very long,
And people said, ďMy, she is so strong.Ē
They did not know I couldnít feel,
My broken heart made all unreal.
But then one day, as I awoke
I clutched my chest, began to choke,
Such a scream, such a wail,
Broke from me..
My child! My child!
The horror of reality.
But everyone has moved on, you see,
everyone except for me.
Now, when I need friends most of all,
Between us there now stands a wall.
My pain is more than they can bear,
When I mention my child,
I see their blank stare.
ďBut I thought you were over it,Ē
Their eyes seem to say--
No, no, I canít listen to this, not today.
So I smile and pretend, and say, ďOh, Iím okĒ.
But inside I am crying, as I turn away.
And so my old friend, I shall paint on a smile,
As I have from the start,
You never knowing all the while,
All Iíve just said to you in my heart.
|**You are free to copy or use any poetry on this website, but please be kind enough to include the author's name. I stress this as I have found that many of the poems from this site have been shared on the internet, but no credit to the authors were given. These Moms have poured their hearts out. It is just the right thing to do.*******|
| That day was very hard for me. I realized that people don't understand that our grief gets worse before it gets better. The reality of what we have lost doesn't hit us all at once. We are numb for a very long time. By the time the numbness wears off, everyone around you has gone on with their lives, forgetting in a sense.
They cannot imagine why you are more devastated a year after your childs death than you were when it happened. So I am hoping that this will be a place where we can at least talk to each other. (Since no one else can seem to handle talking with us)
If you have a poem you've written about your child, or about how you are feeling, please e-mail it to me, and I will post it on the poetry page. I know that writing is one of the ways we have to release some of our grief. If you just plain want to talk you can e-mail me, or post your story in the guestbook so you can share your thoughts/feelings with everyone. This page is brand new, but I know over time we will have much to say to each other.
Please Check Through the Sitemap...As well as the site's original pages, I have been recently adding new thoughts, stories, and information that may be helpful to you. (2006)
It is Now 2008. I am still in awe of all the brave women that come here daily to share their stories.
|Please don't leave the site before going to the page "Your Child Wants to Tell You Something" and have a listen to the song there.....Moms, it will make you feel good........|
|We now have our own online support group For Grieving Moms. To join just click the link next to this message.|
|"I am a Chaplain for a police department. Part of my duties include doing death notifications. Your site is wonderful and I have had the opportunity to refer greiving Moms' to it. Thank you for sharing. May you have the strength to bear your loss. My prayers are with you and all those that have need of your site."....... Chaplain Richard
Saturday, June 26th 2004
|My most touching recomendation:|
|Since so many brave Moms have shared their stories, our Original Guestbook quickly became full. I began a 2nd, and now a 3rd one. Literally hundreds of Moms like you and I have shared their thoughts and feelings. To sign/read the newest one, just click the links below.
To VIEW the site's Original Book, click Here (Guestbook 1)
To VIEW the 2nd book, click Here (Guestbook 2)
To TELL US YOUR STORY, click Here (Guestbook 3)
To READ the Newest Book click Here (Guestbook 3)
|For Grieving Moms|
|A website created by a Grieving Mom, specifically for Grieving Moms.
In the loneliness and desperation that only grief can bring...in that desperate need for someone to talk to... I am reaching out to talk with you.
|If you are feeling alone, please visit the guestbook. Many mothers just like you have shared their stories there. While all of their stories are sad, they also let us know that we are not alone in how we are feeling. These Moms' bravery and honesty in sharing have created a place where we can feel 'safe' in talking about our feelings, and what it is to lose a child. I would really urge you to take a moment to look at it, and if you are feeling up to it, please do share your story with us. Hearing from other Moms like ourselves helps more than you could ever know.|
|Below are New Pages I've Added (2006)|
|A Teacher At the Funeral - The Story She Came to Share With Us (Please read, it will make you smile)|
|(Or You can simply click the Sign/Read links below for the new book, started March 10, 2008)|
|For Grieving Moms 2008|
|"A grieving mother is an ocean of secret heartaches"...|
|The Active-X that pops up on some pages simply controls the music. Click "OK" to view page with music, or close the box to view without..|