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Hello Friends, We have been through another Holiday Season and on top of that, a historic New Year. Holidays are hard, so hard, for those of us who have lost someone we love. Maybe because of the New Millineum, I have been in a comtemplative mood. My son should have been here to celebrate this New Millineun, as should have your loved ones. At any rate, I've been looking at my life, and it's changes, since my son was murdered in May 1998. I don't think that anyone but another survivor of a murder victim, can understand how profoundly your life changes. Once your child is murdered, and I'm speaking as a mother here, nothing matters in your life anymore as much as justice for your child and learning how to live a life without them. Everything, is devoted to making some sense of their senseless deaths. Marriages can fall by the wayside, so can relationships with extended family and friends. I have found, in my experience, that no one, not dads, not siblings, no one suffers the pain a mother feels at the loss of a child. This is a generalization, I know, but there is a connection with mother and child that no one else can share. Speaking very personally here... my life is now devoted to justice for my son and making any good come from this evil thing, that I can. His dad and his brother, just want things to return to "normal." I would like to hear your experiences/thoughts on this. I am fairly new at dealing with this nightmare. I can not say that any of this is a common experience. I would like to hear from others, your experience, how your relationships with your spouse and remaining children, fared. Maybe I need more answers from you, than I can give to others. May I take this opportunity to wish for you, Peace and Hope in this new Millineum? I won't say Happy New Year, because for some of us, that is an insult. Until next time....
Karen
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