• What is D/s?
• Introducing your Partner to D/s
• Trust
• I am a male submissive

Ok picture this: A 6 foot four inch tall man, broad shoulders, heavy build, close cropped hair, beard, Ray Bans and, just for the heck of it, throw in a Bachelor of Engineering Degree (with Honours). Now, think of him during a crisis at his work where he hands out tasks, keeps up to date on progress, and chips in to do his own bit. Would you think of this man as being a submissive? Well he is. He's me. That's a pretty fair description of me, and I'm a submissive; slave to My Alpha, Mrs Wolf (who also happens to be my wife).

Did she coerce me? Henpeck me into submission? Well no. In fact I had to spend a lot of time talking really fast to convince her to let me be her slave.

So, ok, I'm big, strong, mean looking and not too shabby in the brains department. So why the heck am I a submissive? Because I am. It's a pat answer, but I might as well as why you have the hair colour you do, or why you are as tall as you are.

That's hardly fair, so I'll try to answer it a little better. Firstly, yes, I can cope very well on my own. I can make decisions, I can take charge. In my job I sometimes have to. At three A.M. when the power is down and you have customers relying on your service, you don't have time to wait for a 'superior' to come in and solve the problems. I can also take care of myself physically. I'm big, I'm strong, and I scare people (unwittingly). I have a good job that means I can be the traditional 'breadwinner'. So, I have no need to be a submissive, to be supported.

Well that's not quite true. I don't have a physical or monetary need. I do have an emotional need. While I can certainly enjoy being a Dominant, and being 'in control', it's not me. When I do Dominate someone (and I'm not just talking in a D/s context here, I mean in general), it's usually to help them. The bottom line is I enjoy serving. I enjoy helping others. If I do dominate, it's in a submissive way, and therein lies my problem. I'm perhaps too helpful; I overextend myself. From a purely 'need' point of view I need a Dominant to stop me from overreaching myself. However it goes deeper than that. I need someone to serve. Someone I can devote myself to entirely.

Does that help?

Are Male subs different to their (more traditional) female counterparts? Well, never having been a female sub I can't say yes or no with great certainty, but I think, deep down, no. The difference, I think, is more in how we're perceived. While it's quite alright, sometimes even expected, for a female to bow to a male, to be submissive towards him, a male who bows to a female is obviously weak. At least that appears to be the 'popular' view. Well I can tell you now that's not true. I've met a number of male subs and there are all types. Everyone from a weak little fellow to the big bruiser type and lots in between.

• What is D/s?
• Introducing your Partner to D/s
• Trust
• I am a male submissive