Which fear is keeping your from succeeding? Like I said before, our minds are a powerful and mysterious thing. It controls our breath, our hearts, it controls whether or not we feel pain and joy. It controls us. It can be and usually is our one true enemy. It is the keeper of our opinions, our doubts and our fears. It holds the little voice inside of you that says you can or can't do something. So in essence, the only thing holding you back is you. I am not afraid of failure; I know that good will always come from it. I am however, afraid of success. I am afraid that once I've gotten what I wanted it will not be what I expected. I'm afraid that once I'm on top it will be harder to maintain it than getting there in the first place. I'm afraid because I've seen these things in my life already. I also know that my life will grow as I grow, and that it's okay to change my mind about what I want. So, slowly and not with out pain, I work on the things that I fear.

Fear can be conquered. Isn't that great news. Fear is one of our greatest motivators, but it is also one of our biggest inhibitors. In all of my studying and reading about fear I have learned two things. 1. That 90% of everything you fear will never happen, and 2. I can handle it. We as human beings allow our fears to take over our thoughts. (Because we don't know what's on the other side of the mountain we never climb it.) The definition of fear: False Evidence Appearing Real.

The opposite of fear is not to be fearless. The opposite of fear is courage. It's not that you won't ever feel fear, but it's that you'll try anyway. Courage is putting your dreams ahead of your fears. So how do we over come our fears?

Over Coming Fear

1. Replace your fears with bigger ones. Failure is never quite as frightening as regret

2. Worst Case Scenario What is the worst thing that could possibly happen if I attempt this? If I do A, the worst thing that could happen is B.

WCS: What would happen if I went up to that really hot girl and used an extremely cheesy line on her? Worst Case Scenario: She could laugh her ass off and I would feel humiliated. That feeling would go away, or I could kick myself for the next week because I didn't have the courage to walk up to her.

B never happens. When you think about the different outcomes that could occur you create the possibility of something better happening. You also realize that even the Worst Case Scenario isn't as life threatening as you originally thought.

3. You have control over yourself. When you fall down, it's your decision to get back up again. Worry occurs when we concentrate on things we can't control. We can't control thoughts and actions of others, only how we respond to any given situation. Take responsibility for yourself and your actions.	How do you respond to adversity? Do you respond or react? When ever I was having a conflict that was getting the better of me, I would repeat in my head. "I will not allow the actions and opinions of others to determine my own."
You will always feel fear as long as you are growing.	4. The only way to truly conquer fear is to face it head on. Let me say that again. The thing we fear most is usually the first thing we need to do. There is no way around fear, only through it. The more you do what you fear, the less you fear it. Don't run away from things you need to get done. (they will still be there tomorrow)
5. If you can't change your problem, change your perspective. If you are lost, get a map. Don't be one of those people that never ask for directions.	You are free the moment you stop looking outside yourself for someone to solve your problems. And remember if you look for an excuse, you will find one.

It's okay to have fear. Fear jumping out of an airplane without a parachute. Fear using public washrooms. But don't fear being yourself.

Over Coming Fear

Positive Mental Attitude

Goal Setting

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