8/20/99- All Happy

Things have quieted down, yay...

1. The boss came back from vacation for two days, then left on vacation again for yet another week. I'm getting nuffin' done. Oh well...

2. Last Tuesday Jess and Rem and I (and others of the LUGOD persuasion) went to Linux World Expo...which was fun. Not like I have any clue what was going on, but there was tons of free stuff (schwag) to acquire. Though I wanted a free penguin, and I didn't get any (sniff). They only handed them out if you went to a presentation, and then could answer questions about it, and I knew I didn't know jack. Did get to check out several distributions, though (I'm thinking of putting maybe Debian or something on the computer). And was pretty amused by the speech Linus (founder of Linux) gave...the Q and A part, Mike S. asked him some question, and right out Linus goes "I love you." It was hysterical. Plus this loud guy (who the prez of LUGOD apparently hates) won some award, and as he's blabbering on, Linus's kids came on stage and ran around, back and forth, squealing, wanting to be picked up, grabbing daddy's legs and sticking their faces into his crotch...it was great. Woke up the audience. Then afterwards we went to the Slashdot party, and Jess actually talked to Linus...yay for her! The rest of us were all shy and stuff. I do that around the famous.

3. The entire last week and this one we didn't fight about nights off. I didn't mention it at all, never once asked him when he wanted off, and he never brought it up. I'd assumed he was going to have Wed. or Thurs. off, but he didn't. And he seemed perfectly fine to me...not all restless and cold or something, which I was vaguely expecting if he's supposed to feel all sick of me, or whatever. But nope. Quite affectionate to me this last week too. I figured last week he was just not making a big deal about it because I was going to be gone all weekend, but when I got back into town Sunday night, he still wanted to get together. No "it's my night off" stuff. I am amazed.

Though wondering when the bomb'll drop...how long can this last?

This week was slightly different in that on Monday he made some comment about how I could do better and I asked how, and he said that I could find someone who didn't want nights off. I changed the topic quick. I still don't know what to do about it, him wanting time and me feeling like shit about it, but I give up. Though Jess's theory was that our not fighting about it made him want less time off, and not bringing it up is good. I like that one.

He is having tonight off, of sorts, in that he's having dinner with both his mom and dad (yes, two dinners) to hit them up for money &/or camping gear. I kinda wanted to go along originally when he said he was going to visit his dad (then his mom called wanting to get together), but I figured he probably needed to get away from me and it was a good excuse that he'd be outta town. (If I make him leave town on all nights off...?) And he hadn't asked me. Though when he was talking to Mom on the phone he asked if I was going, and I said "Uh, I thought I wasn't, and seeing as you've got family stuff..." He even wanted to get together tonight when he gets back from the mountain- at like 2 a.m.- I'm getting Sarah to drop me off at his place so I won't annoy Jess by calling him/leaving/whatever. His dad was going to some thing at someone's house and invited him along...I was disgusted at the e-mail saying that a cute undergrad would be there. I found out the last time he visited Dad he tried introducing some girl on the mountain to him, saying he should marry her. Gag me. And supposedly his dad likes me too (my body anyway...apparently his dad doesn't like Rem dating heavier chicks. Ugh.)...I don't get that. Rem said his dad was 95% kidding, and that the girl "just wasn't me", but still, that's, IMO, tacky.

4. As for my parents: Just read this..

I have decided to go. Though we just got the phone bill yesterday, and Mom wants me to pay for it out of my account instead of her paying for it like she said she would...and it's half of my account. That pisses me off. No, I haven't announced this officially to them yet. Of course I am delaying.

Though Rem and I have started buying up supplies. And he somehow keeps acquiring more and more money lately =) Gotta love his mom the moneybags. Though it was damned funny how she's married to a multimillionaire (or so Rem says) and wanted to go to Dennys the last time we had dinner with her. Rem said she was fighting with him over whether or not he got $95 or $100 in the shrink agreement (the shrink costs $95). Geez.

5. Certain lovely folks on Elgonquin have started taking up a collection of money for me to go to BM! I am, well, beflummoxed and flabbergasted...and feel kinda guilty for accepting (I'm sure Mom'd flip if she heard). Though Rem said "Take it, we're poor", and gotta agree with that logic. Plus Mom and the phone bill shit (sigh).

6. Have realized that my second RSVP call-in time is during Burning Man, and well, since I don't really wanna take anything anyway, who cares? I think I'll try attempting to sign up for Drama 20 (playreading- well, there don't seem to be papers for it, anyway), maybe, when I'm back. But really, my interest and options are limited. Also wondering about work- by the time the boss gets back, we leave. Geez. 7. Mom and Dad are now planning to go to Montana the last two weeks of September. The last week school starts, so that's on my side in that, anyway.

8. Sarah and Alex are getting rocky lately (though they've just hit 3 months). She found out last week he'd looked at porn (she was very drunk at the time, of course) and FLIPPED OUT, and Alex was panickily IRC'ing me about what to do. Surprisingly, she chilled out the next day. But he was going on to me about her alcoholic tendencies and how he's always trying to please her...and then last night she was bitching about how she HATES long distance relationships and can't handle it and maybe she should break up with him because he's never here...I find it hard to be sympathetic, seeing as her situation is a helluva lot easier to deal with than most LD's. Like, it's temporary, and he's here every weekend. That's like half the week, girl! Chill out!

9. More Remington news: Mike S, the guy he wants to live with, is having a icky situation at work. Namely, the CEO's a dick, he got rid of almost all the staff but Mike and a few others, and it ain't real pleasant to be there. Seeing as he may quit at any minute and wants to get a new job, and wanted to choose living space near said job, and he's not even knowing if he'll attempt staying at work until next week...It's making apartment hunting virtually impossible for Rem. He's just moving out to Rumsey at this point, who knows what Mike'll do.

10. Rem and Zoe: This doesn't sound so good. Namely, he's kinda pissy at her. The words "annoyed" and "apeshit" have come up. She won't come to the Rumsey party tomorrow (for Jess's b-day, which was yesterday =) because she is a. pissed at some people, and b. "doesn't see why Rem would want to get drunk with a bunch of kids." Which he sees as insulting his friends, though I never thought he was that close to Mike/Zach/whoever else she's mad at, I forget. Jess is annoyed because she was talking to Zoe on IRC and Zoe was making it sound like Jess would have to disinvite people before she'd consider coming. Which is NOT nice, IMO, especially to say to the birthday girl. I'm feeling kinda annoyed too! She called Rem's last night looking for me, but I'm kinda annoyed myself. She also called Rem the other night. Rem is kinda guessing that she now wants to come to BM too, but he was feeling kinda pissy at her, and when he didn't automatically jump in and reassure her that he wanted her to come (that is doubtful, I think? He's annoyed.), she got mad. Or so he says.

Ai yi yi.

11. Rem's Shrink Report: So far he's said VERY LITTLE on this topic. "It's neither good or bad, it's therapy", "I can't figure her out." is about as deep as he'll mention about it to the prying folkses (Melissa, Zoe). I've asked him very little about it- no need to push if he doesn't wanna talk about it. Plus it occurred to me last night that knowing that he'll be talking about me there is just...weird.

But he actually brought stuff up last night about it, that she's either very good or very bad at her job. That she said he shouldn't worry about being "dangerous" like he does...personally I don't get where he's gotten that idea at all and never agreed with it. Apparently she wants to go places he doesn't want to go (well, that's therapy, all right). I'm surprised he hasn't mentioned any relationship crap.

Rem is becoming hugely obsessed with installing various versions of Linux on this one computer of his. He wants to see how many he can fit on at a time...geez. I think it's his shot at winning Geek of the Year, or something. He wakes up, lunges for the keyboard, and is at that until lunch, then we leave, and when we get back to his place he's up till 2-2:30 or worse installing more stuff. I suspect this is getting out of hand. Makes me long for going to Rumsey, where he doesn't have any good hooked up computers. Though we went out there for our nine-month-anniversary (can't eat out fancy, oh well), and he wanted to watch movies all night long. Well, we got done with the one he wanted to see around 1:30, then he wanted to see another movie. And I was all "Look, I'm gonna fall asleep pretty soon, I don't wanna." But when he coudln't find the movie he wanted, he gave up. Geez. This latenight thing is getting weird.

While at Rumsey, we found some kittens who had apparently moved into the bushes outside his bedroom window. They're about 2 weeks old and are soooooooooo cute. Rem's looking for homes for them, but this looks to be a problem, seeing as everyone's moving or going to be homeless or can't take them in the next two weeks, and they should be civilized, if it's going to be done, ASAP.

I want to put Debian Linux on this computer, preferably before the next Lugod meeting so I can brag about it.

Melissa wants to quit being the secretary, and I'm considering taking it over if nobody more technical wants to do it. I did it for one meeting while she was gone, and it wasn't bad.

The dog is more and more bitey lately. She's driving everyone one nuts. Why do I suspect that I'm not much of a pet person?

Vaguely wondering where Jess and Sarah and Alex all went off to (well, not so much Sarah and Alex, if it's their anniversary), but am not too worried, as I don't feel like doing much tonight. Can't afford it, since Dad purposely kept me short of cash in the refill.

This is getting yammery. Must stop.

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