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| MYTH: Battering is only a momentary loss of temper FACT: Battering is the establishment of control and fear in a relationship through violence and other forms of abuse. The batterer will use a series of behaviors, including intimidation, threats, psychological abuse, and isolation to control the other person. The majority of women are victimized over and over again by the same person. |
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| MYTH: Domestic violence occurs mostly in poor, urban areas. FACT: Women of all cultures, races, occupations, income levels, and ages, are battered by their spouses, boyfriends, or lovers. Approximately one-third of these men are well respected in their community. Many of them are professionals....such as doctors, lawyers, ministers, psychologists, and business executives. I, personally, know this to be fact, as my abuser is well known and respected. Being in the business world himself....he would always have someone come up to him to pay their respects...while we were out together. Little did they know the side of him that was reserved "only for me." |
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| MYTH: It is easy for battered women to leave their abuser FACT: Women who leave their abusers are at a 75% greater risk of being killed. This does not mean you should STAY! This just means there is a right way...and a wrong way to leave. The majority of women leave without a plan of action. Also...half of all the homeless women and children on the streets, are there because they left an abuser. The sad fact is..."there are nearly 3 times more animal shelters in the United States..then there are shelters for battered women and their children. SAD INDEED!! |
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| MYTH: Domestic violence is just a push....a slap...or a punch. It does not often produce serious injuries. FACT: Battered women are often seriously injured. About a third of women in emergency rooms are there because of ongoing abuse by their partner. About one fourth of pregnant women have a history of partner abuse. Many of them ending in miscarriages. |
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| MYTH: An abuser is often times not a loving partner during his "calm times" FACT: Batterers are often appologetic and affectionate after an episode of abuse. This is one of the things that can be so confusing to a victim. Their partner can indeed be very loving, and gentle when he is not raged. |
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| MYTH: Alcohol causes partner abuse FACT: Alcohol is just an excuse for many socially unacceptable behaviors. The real cause of abuse is the "need" for power and control. Many times when a person is under the influence of alcohol they will do things that are wrong. Please do not accept alcohol as an excuse for anything. We are all responsible for our actions...no matter what. NO EXCUSES! |
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| To see the face of beauty.... Look in the mirror! YOU ARE SPECIAL !! |
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